I’ve written numerous posts on submission, more than I can even link to:
I happen to really enjoy writing, talking, and speaking about submission, not just in marriage but in all areas of our lives, impacting both men and women. I often say the root of what ails us in any given situation is always going to be a problem with submission. Either we are not submitting to the Lord enough, not submitting to the truth enough, not submitting to love enough, or not submitting to one another enough.
As you can imagine this is not a real popular idea, it doesn’t sell very well. We’re living in a world where everyone else always needs to change, including the very nature of the world itself. We’ll demand the world conform to our needs long before we think to consider whether or not there is something within us ourselves that needs to change.
Ironic, because if we ever all got together and decided to let the Lord change us, the world would look a whole lot different than it does right now. In fact, that’s how you go about changing the world, by transforming one heart at a time, starting with our own.
It’s such a tragedy to me that submission has somehow been linked to inferiority, that it is so often misused as a way to deflect responsibility and assign blame. Women unfortunately, are frequent targets. It’s not scripture that gets it wrong, but there sure are a lot of people who get scripture wrong.
Submission is actually simply yielding to and receiving love. You wrap it in shame, fear, legalism, or mandates, and you’ve lost the whole argument. You’ve lost the argument with me, a fan of submission, albeit a cranky and impatient one.