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For those who don’t know, Pastor Wilson likes to do a series called “No Quarter November,” where he sets something on fire like a sofa or a truck, and proceeds to take the filter off and speak plainly. It’s an entertaining marketing ploy involving giving away some of his books.
So right out of the gate we have, “Like Dead Flies on a Window Sill.” There are a great many things I am in complete agreement with. I also enjoy Francis Schaeffer. I have little or no loyalty to Big Eva. The last couple of years have indeed exposed a great many boils of cultural hypocrisy desperately needing to be lanced. Alas, those boils are not all on the left side of the aisle, nor reserved for secularism.
Let us talk about one fat, dead fly that simply will not rest. Wilson adds to his list of horrors, “the ecclesiastical lynchings that occurred in the name of dealing with sexual offenders.”
Sigh.
Double sigh.
So what is the one thing that keeps me separated from the church at large? What is the one thing that has me looking at some transgendered antifa thug and going, meh, just looks like flip sides of the same coin. Same crap, different costume. What gives rise to my political apathy? Why do I enjoy reading Wilson on one hand, and yet I would also cheerfully build a wall, take up arms, and give his ideology and belief system, Absolutely No Quarter At All?
Ha! Make America ANQAA for right wingers who will not listen to anyone but their own selves.
A bit amusing, one would think when one was floating out in the deep ocean of the 9th circuit of hell for years on end, almost any boat that came along would be most welcome. One would not say for example, “I realize I’m dehydrated, covered in blisters from the sun, and awash in the bilge of my own filth, but I really do prefer to wait for a more perfect lifeboat. In fact, if the choice is between you and death, I’ll take the death. It’s all good, I’ve actually made reservations for the afterlife.”
Those are some strong words, but I mean them, there is a deal breaker so powerful, it is a hill I will die on. It’s about making sure that women and girls are heard, listened to, and respected. It’s about believing us when we speak about sexual assault. It’s about acknowledging our pain. It’s about creating a system of safety. It’s about valuing women and girls (and many boys and men too) enough, that you are willing to stand up and proclaim that sexual abuse is wrong. Pedophilia decimates it’s victims. Your number one priority must be their well being and safety and not the empathy you feel towards sexual abusers. Not even the empathy you feel towards those who may experience the discomfort and embarrassment of false accusations. That is a travesty, however not all victims are Potiphar’s wife and not all of the accused are Joseph.
If that is your worldview, then it will color everything you do and it will impact how you perceive those who are telling the truth. You will simply not believe them, you will deny and dismiss them, or worse you will blame them.
With no shame at all, with no self awareness, with a complete inability to empathize, Wilson offers mockery, the analogy of a husband standing on the sidelines while his wife is being attacked saying, “Guys, guys! This is simply unacceptable. I disapprove of this kind of behavior in the strongest possible terms. Honey, honey . . . thoughts and prayers!”
That actually made me cry. You know why? As small and pathetic as that tiny effort is, that is what every sexual abuse victim longs to hear. You don’t even have to do a darn thing, just state that sexual abuse is unacceptable, you disapprove of this behavior, and your thoughts and prayers are with the victim….and not just with the perpetrator.
David thou art that man. Or rather, church, thou art that husband. Or rather, church if you could just be that husband you hold up for mockery and ridicule, it would actually be an upgrade.
The vast majority of abuse victims don’t even get that much from the church at a large. We don’t even get a wussified, pansy reaction, and someone sending good vibes. Nope, nine times out of ten we get blamed, and not only pushed out of the church, but pushed away from Christ Himself. If His ambassadors are this hypocritical, heartless, and brain dead, then what else have they lied about?
The church at large is often even worse than that negligent, wimpy husband. Victims don’t even get a few positive twinkles from the universe and a brief nod.
The left is bursting at the seams with hypocrisy too, and have their fingers in their ears, but at least you can be certain if you are ever a victim of assault the first question they ask you will NOT be, So what were you wearing? Have you ever heard of Potiphar’s wife? Weren’t you flaunting your money around and tempting everyone? Do you have any unconfessed sin of your own? Didn’t you dye your hair pink and wear yoga pants when you were a teen? Are you sure this wasn’t your fault? Maybe you just misunderstood the situation….
Wilson reveals his genuine feelings when he states, “the ecclesiastical lynchings that occurred in the name of dealing with sexual offenders.” Can you name one single false accusation of churchian sexual abuse in the past few years that has led to the “lynching” of an innocent? I can not think of a single one. Of course I probably haven’t scrutinized every single court case, or poured over all accusations with a fine tooth comb, but that is hardly my fault. There have been hundreds.
Heck, the pResident is chief can’t even seem to keep his nose out of little girl’s hair. The madam of Epstein Island is currently in jail…… and yet not one single perpetrator has ever seen the inside of a courtroom. You’d have to be willfully blind to not realize that our culture, our system, our dysfunction is all heavily rooted in the unchecked sexual abuse of children.
Culture is always downstream from the church. I know this because I’ve spent a lifetime living in the flushing zone. Some days there just isn’t enough sweet smelling spray to cover up the smell of all the bovine poo pouring out of the mouths of her shepherds.
Thank you for this post – you nailed it. May the good Lord bless you for blogging on this serious matter. I’ll die on that hill with you.
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Thank you for your kind words and support. It really is a serious matter and does so much damage. The church at large needs to be a shelter, a refuge for people to heal and draw closer to the Lord, not a place of trauma.
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It’s funny about Epstein. The DOJ has harassed a US president with no evidence for years, up to and including creating a story, then raiding his home on a fishing expedition to find SOMETHING. Yet, they have a little black book with lots of names in it that really should pique their curiosity, but it doesn’t. Perhaps the sexual abuse of children is the golden goose of the political elite?
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Yes, the sexual abuse of children often is a golden goose of the elite. I don’t fully understand it all, it has something to do with the desire to have power over others, grooming and exploiting children being a form of emotional and social currency. They sometimes network, they compare notes, like a secret club and the children they exploit are like trophies or scored points.
Even in small communities they tend to amass a lot of power, with many people enabling and protecting them, sometimes intentionally, sometimes not. Sometimes you just have people more interested in protecting their own social status within a group, rather than protecting children. They know to just look the other way.
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We are lamenting some reprehensible but statiscally normal human behaviors. Without an almost overpowering sex drive, how many would burden themselves so long and heavily as is required by childrearing? And all the seduction does not come from adults as pointed out. Female contraception (the pill) has probably not helped here. Nor has the Christian practicum of confining sexual activities to the shadows. Can we find practical, socio-legal practices that might effectively limit the present opportunities for these interactions? I suspect so, but only after lighting the scene enough to scare off a lot of powerful people …upon whom many of us depend. “We has met the enemy, an he is us.”
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Amen, I think you’ve captured the nature of the problem, “we have met the enemy and he is us.” Confining sex to the shadows really has done a great deal of harm. Healthy, well adjusted sexuality is also a thing that is never really talked about, so sex tends to just be equated with dysfunction, even criminality. Nonsense, it’s a healthy part of our design and God proclaimed it good, the problem being we people can mess even the good stuff up.
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As all else, the privilege of choice carries a price?
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Pastor Wilson again. I’m guessing the article is pompous, uses a lot of “clever” imagery, has little substance, and makes some jabs at the evils of feminization? Those are his hallmarks and the hallmarks of many fake intellectuals and faux conservatives. They also tend to be pasty, smug, and weasely.
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Ha. I like “pasty and weasely.” That about sums it up.
Today he writes about “evangelical spandex,” and it’s pretty much what it sounds like, really slimey. Made my skin crawl. Basically women needing church discipline for causing men to lust when they go to the gym wearing spandex. The fact that he is a pastor makes it extra creepy and unsettling. I know a couple of late stage, low bottem drunks who show more respect for the humanity of women then this guys does.
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I tried to read that post, and it lived up to my expectations. And then it kept going and going and I couldn’t finish. What I always find hilarious about these “yoga pants” posts is they never bring up men wearing shorts and tank tops. I guess the men folks really don’t care about the souls of women drowning in lust. It’s only their souls they care about…because, let’s be honest, men displaying their muscles will cause women to lust even if nobody wants to talk about it. That’s why chick flics tend to have scenes with topless men riding tractors or with white shirts emerging from a pond, eg the famous Darcy wet t-shirt contest from P&P.
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Ha! You bring up another good issue, because what is “lust?” I am convinced it is not ordinary sexual attraction or admiring someone’s physical attributes. It has more to do with coveting, envy, and dehumanizing/objectifying someone. That post of Wilson’s is just skeevy, full of lust. It’s rooted more in coveting what does not belong to you from a place of resentment and hostility, not healthy biology, not normal attraction.
LOL! If I ever figure it all out and find the right words, I’ll write a post someday. 🙂
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I think it is a good thing I have avoided the church most of my life and I have not been influenced by them at all really. Just the home church i went to for awhile as a teenager all the others were mostly just messes. I came toy Christ’s saving grace without a church and I am glad I did.
I wear yoga pants not the spandex ones and I am 60 I wear them because they are comfortable and having chronic pain I don’t need anything that binds and causes more muscle spasms.
My abuse goes back to childhood as far as my memories go and what on earth could Wilson say that I did to deserve all of that? It didn’t stop there though I had two husbands that were abusive too, but since I was an adult surely I did something to deserve that…surely I did. I am sure though he believes a wife cannot be sexually abused though.
Isn’t kind of ironic that in my younger life I was respected more by five gay guys than I ever was by manly men? It would be laughable if it wasn’t so pathetic. Honestly if it had not been for my daddy I probably would have grown up hating men unfortunately he died when I was 10 years old, but he was a kind and gentle man and as big as a bear. Fortunately though I found a man very similar to him in temperament it breaks his heart if he makes me cry which isn’t often at all. He isn’t super handy with fixing or building things, but I am so it works out.
The way I feel about people like Wilson is he will eventually reap as he has sown and for him I feel it is not going to be pretty.
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Me too! I mean the part about avoiding the church and not really growing up in that environment. I feel so blessed to have gotten to know Jesus outside the context of “religion.”
And yes, I’ve also met many gay men who are far more kind or human towards women than this pastor is, and yes, that is ironic! I’d rather hang out with outright sinners then self righteous Pharisee, but that’s probably how Jesus felt on the earth, too.😂
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Yes, I believe Jesus felt the same way and why He spent so much time with sinners over the den of vipers lol.
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