For those who don’t know, a unicorn is a label sometimes applied by those who do not believe in women anymore or even in the existence of love. The fem equivalent would be a Prince Charming, that mythical creature you dream of, but when he shows up, he simply demands you clean up after his horse.
It’s sad to me, so many people are wounded and bitter about relationships, or struggling greatly in marriages, or outright suffering. The world too, likes to portray marriage as a dreadful thing, a heavy cross to bear, certainly the death of our sexuality, the end of our fun, the very death of our life force itself. Oh puh-lease. Pfffttt. We’ve got it all backwards.
Marriage is awesome. Love is not only real, it really does conquer all. I do believe in fairy tales, although not the disneyfication of fairy tales. For those familiar with the real deal, they are tales filled with truth, packed with the human experience, and not necessarily what we today would define as a “happy ending.” The Little Mermaid for example, is tossed aside in favor of a foreign princess, but when the only way to save her own life is to drive a knife through the prince’s heart, she chooses to jump overboard and kill herself instead. That is the true nature of love, poignant, painful, and often sacrificial. Not exactly Disney, but real and very human.
So, there is a tweet in the land of Unicorn Deniers that says, “..when women all of a sudden start posting updates with references to God, Jesus, being strong, out of the blue, it usually means she is having relationship trouble…”
Oh absolutely, guilty as charged! When in times of trouble, we lean into Him. Amen. Of course smart women also post those status updates about Christ when things are going well. Also when your man is just awesome and yet your sink is broken. Or the sink is working fine but your husband appears to be broken after a long day at work. My point being, Christ is there for us in the good times and the bad. Those of us in faith soon learn that a bible that is falling apart, will belong to a woman who isn’t.
As to being strong, something that is so misunderstood in the world, submission in women is not weakness. It is not passivity. It is not fragility. It is actually a position of great strength and power, wrapped in softness and feminine mystique perhaps, but the complete opposite of weakness. To be in a state of constant defiance and rebellion is actually weakness because it is exhausting, because it drains you of your energy, because it saps your strength. It is not true to who women are, it does not empower us, in fact it can deceive us into not even recognizing our own needs anymore, but rather endlessly seeking the approval of the world, responding to what it expects of us, rather than what we truly want and need ourselves.
The tweet goes on to say, “…Women frequently use Jesus as their substitute man, Indeed, when there’s too much Jesus in her status updates, you know her love life is suffering….” Oh, ouch! Bit personal there, wouldn’t you say? Also, a little amusing because possessing just a touch of modesty requires me to simply shut my mouth. Married or not, in the name of good taste, I cannot even launch a proper defense and present any evidence beyond, that statement about suffering love lives is complete poppycock.
Second of all, Jesus should never be anyone’s “substitute man,” he should always be our first man. He is what fills us up and from a place of overflow we are able to love earthly husbands more freely and confidently. Love comes from a place of abundance, not from neediness.
Do women romantize their relationships with Christ? Yes, perhaps, to varying degrees depending on our personalities. I think we’re supposed to, we are woman after all, I think it is a language many of us speak. Love comes in many forms, love for our fathers, love for our husbands, love for brothers and sons. All those different kinds of love go into our relationships with earthly men, so why not with God, too? All in good humor here, but if you think women don’t love in many different ways, you haven’t watched women try to go all maternal on a husband who is trying desperately to avoid any nurturing, what he may perceive as controlling, motherly love. Bit of sisterly affection, married or not, and the man’s now shut out in the friend zone. God knows all of women’s various forms of love, the good, the bad, and the ugly. We find examples of that all through out the bible.
What becomes problematic is when men want a “Christian marriage,” but outside the context of faith, they want a woman’s submission, but they resent that Christ must come first in her life, and they refuse to submit to any Authority themselves. That is just a complete disaster for all parties. No wonder there is so much suffering. People only have one piece of the puzzle and they’re trying to build a whole story and coming up with elaborate explanations for what is wrong.
Anyway, I am (or am not in terms of being mythical,) one of those fabled unicorns, one of many unicorns actually, one who believes in men, in marriage, in love, and in fairy tales. I met Prince Charming, bit rough around the edges perhaps, but charming just the same. He never asked me to clean up after his horse. In fact, he often asked nothing of me at all, and in the process taught me to also expect nothing but instead to learn to be grateful for everything. I am truly blessed and have his favor, but the favor I always seek first is Christ’s.
That is how #UnicornLoveWins every single time.
violetwisp said:
So there is a little section of heterosexual male society who think they are entitled to a women. Arrogant, selfish, bitter little men who think the world revolves around them and blame women when they don’t find a mutually compatible match.
There’s also a section of female society who don’t find a mutually compatible partner – they simply accept they haven’t met anyone compatible. Maybe feel sad, maybe get over it, maybe work a little bit harder at meeting new people. But not furious at men for not being what they imagined or for not finding them attractive. That’s life. Some great people simply don’t find someone they can have a relationship with, because they don’t meet people at the right time, or things just don’t work out.
There’s nothing to feel sad for with these horrible men. They need to grow up and get on with their lives as individuals. I don’t know why you pander to them.
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insanitybytes22 said:
Well, many of these men are actually married, allegedly happily married, and yet they spend much of their encouraging other men to pour hatred over women. Don’t ask me what that’s about, I’ve been trying to solve that riddle for some time. Either they are extremely unhappy with their own marriages and cowering in fear of their own wives so much, they seek revenge by proxy, or else they are genuinely good men who just do not recognize what harm they do. I’m still clinging to the hope that some of them just know not what they do.
“There’s also a section of female society who don’t find a mutually compatible partner…. But not furious at men for not being what they imagined or for not finding them attractive….”
Well actually Violet, there is a huge movement afoot that really does actively hate men. The hatred is somewhat passive/aggressive and generally cloaked in alleged good intentions, but it is palatable and recognizable.
“I don’t know why you pander to them.”
LOL, well considering that most of them have banned me, “pander” may be a bit of an exaggeration. 😉
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Eric said:
To answer the question, just consider what type of female would be attracted to Gamer, and you come up what their wives are probably like. Low intelligence, easily controlled, no self-esteem, you get the idea.
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violetwisp said:
“Well actually Violet, there is a huge movement afoot that really does actively hate men. The hatred is somewhat passive/aggressive and generally cloaked in alleged good intentions, but it is palatable and recognizable.”
Can you give me some links?
“LOL, well considering that most of them have banned me, “pander” may be a bit of an exaggeration.”
That’s funny. I did cyber stalk you and, High Arka I think?, to one red pill place (my first experience there) and had a wee laugh.
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insanitybytes22 said:
You are actually one of many cyber stalkers, Violet. What’s really sad about the whole thing is that many non believers look at that pocket of bitter, hostile men and it forms their entire perception of Christianity itself. One can hardly blame anyone for rejecting faith entirely based on the perversions and distortions being presented.
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violetwisp said:
I’m so pleased to join your esteemed posse of cyber stalkers. And the links to this movement of men haters?
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Louis from VA said:
Definitely a hashtag the world could use right about now.
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insanitybytes22 said:
Amen. Perhaps I’ll get a bumper sticker.
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Louis from VA said:
YEESSSSSS I would buy that.
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Paul said:
Vewy, Vewy, mythsterious IB. Ha !~ I agree, bring on the unicorns (speaking of which, as mythical as they are, there is no genetic reason why there couldn’t be a single horned horse.. There are other single horned mammals like narwhal, rhino, etc.).
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insanitybytes22 said:
Ha! There could well be real unicorns, Paul. We’re still discovering species we never knew existed. Then there are always those growler bears and other assorted “new” creatures popping up.
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Paul said:
Sheesh IB – Grolar (Grizzly + Polar ) We Canadians are proud of those – finally a bear with attitude that we can send to the US. 😛 Ha!
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insanitybytes22 said:
Ha! When I was kid, we were afraid of the coming ice age and nuclear winter. One of the biggest threats that was sketched in all the articles and text books, were these drawings of all the wooly mammoths from Canada that were going to come down and trample our cities. It took me the longest time to learn that mammoths were extinct and an “artist’s rendering,” was based entirely on somebody’s imagination.
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Wally Fry said:
Well…sometimes the fairy tale becomes reality. You keep it up IB. You stay a voice of joy in the midst of all of…..this. Look, I am the most cynical human on the planet, or I used to be anyway. And I am all for love, marriage, Jesus, all rolled in one big ball. Remember that Don Williams song..I believe in Love?. Except for the whacked out theology, it was a pretty good song.
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insanitybytes22 said:
Thanks, Wally 😉
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Eric said:
“…they resent that Christ must come first in her life, and they refuse to submit to any Authority themselves.”
In fairness, the Churcian Gamers DO submit to their own leaders, but no one else. But basically, the Alpha is his own god before whom women, children, and Blue Pill Beta Chumps are supposed to hold in reverence and awe. Now anybody who thinks about Game for 5 minutes, that this is really nothing more than another Cult of the Superman behind its Christian veneer.
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insanitybytes22 said:
Good point, Eric. Many of these guys actually do submit to their own leaders and it really does get a bit creepy to watch. They actually start gaming the newbies that show up, “you aren’t worthy, your aren’t tough enough for the red pill, you’re going to have to prove yourself”, and then relentless punishments for those who waver or slip.
That gaming of the men who show up is what made me take a deeper look, because these are wounded men, emotionally vulnerable, and they descend on them just like cult leaders do.
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Michelle Styles said:
“Marriage is awesome.”
Yes, yes it is. Many people aren’t willing to put in the work to make a marriage work. They seem to think it just happens and forget when you dated and were in love you worked to make your partner laugh, smile and most of all love. They worked toward the same. Marriage is not an excuse to be lazy in that duty to work. Nor is the work not worth the effort.
Marriage is awesome when both people understand the effort and work involved and actively pursue the love they once had. I think it’s fun even sixteen years later to spend time with and make my partner laugh and smile. I really don’t understand the personal death people seem to say marriage is.
Thanks for writing this. Your friend Michelle
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NotAPunkRocker said:
OK, my first thought was the definition of “unicorn” used in polyamory. My bad.
(no, I don’t know first hand from the definition or polyamory, I just have a lot of diverse friends LOL !)
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insanitybytes22 said:
LOL! Polyamory, huh? I recently learned another word I did not need to know “polysexual” which means attraction towards multiple genders and sexes. Here I thought there were only two genders, but apparently there are at least 17.
May we live in interesting times. Also, may I stab people with my horn who try to make fun of unicorns? 😉
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Eric said:
There’s something seriously ironic about people who believe in 17 genders sneering at people who believe in unicorns.
Polysexual: this sounds like the ‘redefinition’ of Schizophrenia.
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theasdgamer said:
What type of women are attracted to me? One studied math in graduate school at Harvard and worked for Jet Propulsion Labs. Two were nurses. Mrs. Gamer has her master’s degree. All would be considered Strong Independent Women ™. Eric, you need to unplug from the Matrix.
Women like dominant men who “just get it” about women. Mrs. Gamer claims that she doesn’t like bad boys. She also calls me her “Lothario.” Heh.
Mrs. Gamer would be called a unicorn. I know the real Mrs. Gamer. She is definitely fallen.
Learn about the Myth of the Quality Woman at
http://therationalmale.com/2013/03/19/quality-women/
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