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Just saying. If you’re asking questions like, “Will Wilcox and the men of National Review respect you in the morning?” it’s time to break it off, stop indulging your masochistic tendencies, start showing some respect for yourself, and find some better reading material.
Dalrock begins by saying, “I should start by noting that I am a happily married father and a firm believer in marriage. Marriage is not only the foundation of the family, it is given to us from God.”
Yep, I’d say that’s true, he is indeed a marriage blogger. Here’s the problem however, his perception of women is so dark and ugly, so disrespectful, that marriage, a beautiful gift from God, becomes this dystopian nightmare for women, it is all about being bound to men who don’t even know how to love.
Dark, ugly, disrespectful. Like the commenter who OBJECTS to a facebook post that says, “If the cost of saving a marriage is destroying a woman, the cost is too high. God loves people more than he loves institutions.”
How could anyone in their right mind object to that and believe that God would ever condone destroying a woman? That was a comment, that was the fruit of the kind of message Dalrock sends, the tone he sets. Dalrock himself goes on to say, “Modern women shamelessly fantasize about divorce…”
Hmm, perhaps. Our whole culture has certainly become more divorce minded, and Hollywood, the media, changes marriages like they change underwear, and we live in a culture that no longer values commitment. Is this entirely women’s fault, however? Did it spring up from a void, a bunch of women just got together one day and started fantasizing about divorce?
More importantly however, so how do we go about fixing a broken world, how do we make it better? Jesus Christ, only He saves. We point people to Christ. Unfortunately Dalrock seems more than willing to point to Jesus Christ as condemnation, as a way to punish women, as a way to back up the fact that he apparently believes women are designed to simply suffer and sacrifice for marriage, including enduring abuse, which we probably just made up anyway.
Then I have to remember this odd phenomenon that often plagues men, this combination of denial and an unfailing belief in their own goodness. Denial in the sense that Dalrock and crew seem to believe that all men are innocent, good, seeking only to protect and provide for their wife and kids. Abuse doesn’t even exist in Dalrock’s world or if it does he lacks the eyes to see it.
All men think they’re good. Well, most of them. There are those odd ducks who admit they are not, those who have the humility to see themselves as they really are, those who do not put their faith in their own goodness. Those who would never insist their sister’s do the same. Thank God for those odd ducks too, because the truth of Jesus Christ’s love tends to shine all the brighter within them. Even Christ Himself says, “Why do you call me good? None is good, save one-God.” -Luke 18:19
A perfect, sin free man objected to be called good, why in the world would any of us deeply flawed humans try to insist we’re good?
I kid you not, I once went to court with a woman, clear case of child sexual abuse, horrific stuff, blatant evidence, cut and dry conviction, and as the guy is going by he turns to me and says, “You just don’t understand, I’m really a good guy.” Yeah, evil has this soul crushing way of never being able to see the nature of its own self, of looking you right in the eye and calling itself good.
I don’t know why, I just know it does.
If Dalrock or any Dalrockian truly cared about the state of our world, the state of marriage within our culture, the condition of people’s hearts, they would set down their stones and start a real conversation. That comes with a price however, a willingness to admit that wives are indeed, “heirs together of the grace of life.”
See, there's this thing called biology... 
It’s okay, IB. I had to deal with someone today in my Latin class who self-proclaimed herself an expert on the history of religion by making the bold statement that Islam preceded Christianity because the Muslims say so. Of course the Muslims say so. That’s their dogma. But hey, she’ll be a successful historian publishing with Oxford University Press some day and I’ll be wiping the chimeneys.
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I so hear you. It gets a bit frustrating sometimes, doesn’t it?
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Frustrating is an understatement. I think I’ll just stick with learning from the college dropout squadron. 😉
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Modern women fantasize about divorce??
I’m hear to tell ya that this modern woman, when confronted with ACTUAL divorce, was utterly terrified!
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Yeah, these guys don’t really get it.
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I remember reading about Kermit Gosnell a while ago, the man who was convicted for performing partial birth, really late-term abortions, killing babies even as they were born alive, crawling around in his office. Horrific stuff, but in his interview he firmly believed that he was doing right by the women who came to him, that he was doing a good thing. When evil can’t even see the nature of its own self, it makes for a dangerous world.
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That’s a really good point. I remember that about him too. Some of his defenders were doing the same thing, trying to say, “but he’s a good guy.”
Sometimes you see that on the news when they catch a serial killer or something, the neighbors all go, “but he was such a nice guy.” It’s the strangest thing, perhaps something in our brains that resists processing evil.
I suppose we all want evil to look like something in a movie with a big tattoo on it’s forehead, dressed like a super villain. “The banality of evil,” that’s a tough one.
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Unfortunately, that refusal to process evil was the reason nobody spoke up about Gosnell for so long. Detachment, apathy, bystanders, they’re the real killers in this world, because they let evil happen.
“The banality of evil” is interesting, because it speaks in the same vein as that old saying, “The greatest trick the devil ever pulled was convincing the world he doesn’t exist.” He can hide evil in the simplest of hosts. So moral relativism sinks in, and we don’t want anything to be seen as just plain evil anymore, because “context” and tragic backstories, and we become uncomfortable when someone calls evil out for what it is.
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Virtue comes down to actions, and actions define character – full stop. The rest is just talk.
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“The rest is just talk.”
Oh, I like that! Someone use to say, “the rest is all just background noise, white noise, vanity.”
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IB, i came across this old post, and just had to comment. You don’t even want to know some of the things I’ve come across in his posts, particularly with his views on what a woman wants. 😮 I wish I could do the Scream emoji here. It IS dark, and while he brags about how happy his wife is, it boggles me. There are times when a little light shines through, but then he will say something profane, or worse, abusive and perverse. It’s like I said, if only Dalrock & Company could expend their energy helping men AND women escape to the higher ground.
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Ha ha. I can’t help noting that he denigrates the men of the National Review and others for their views on marriage, but doesn’t pay his friend Tomassi or others in the red pill who want to spin plates the same respect. 😉
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