Do you ever feel completely invisible? Do your rights take a back seat to everyone else’s needs? Are you expected to be seen and not heard? Are your feelings disregarded, or worse yet, dismissed as insane, hysterical, hateful? Are you constantly labeled a crank, a karen, a nutcase? Anybody ever been really rude to you and then some helpful soul points out that the real problem is, you just need to smile more?
Well then, you just might be a woman after all!
All in good humor here, with no bitterness intended (yet another sign of being a woman) but that’s how I know you’re not really a female. Women actually don’t try to claim female dominance over the ladies bathroom. In fact, we often travel in pairs! Needing a bathroom buddy to hold our hand is a somewhat amusing and common characteristic of many girls, with some much darker realities behind it, some unpleasant biological truths hardwired right into us.
Absolutely no woman is going to get dressed up in heels and a ball gown, and go lament on camera about how they can’t get into the men’s room because someone is being a bigot. In fact transgender advocates don’t even do that. NOBODY is fighting for access to the MEN’S room. EVER. You all want in the women’s room, heck into her body, into her very skin, to consume her very persona and identity, even!
That is why you are not a woman.
Again, no bitterness! Do you hear me trying to take care of the feelings of anyone who might be reading my words? Do you hear my hesitation to not offend anyone? My concern that I not be perceived as complaining in a way that might make someone else uncomfortable? Again, all very female like behaviors, female like thinking patterns, female concerns. Of course we’re all a bit different, and we’re all bold in different ways, I’m just saying, THIS is why you are not a female!
A female is not really trying to be seen and perceived or to have her gender acknowledged and accepted by everyone else. In fact, often the precise opposite! It can be confusing because sexual mores come into play, so we want to be attractive, to be looking good, to be noticed, but on the other hand, we often need our gender to be forgotten, we need to be cloaked in a hoodie, wrapped in the safety of non descript, androgyny.
THIS, this is why I know you are not a woman.
Being a woman is not about drag queen shows, wigs and ball gowns, it is not about being big, bold, and beautiful, loud and proud. Those are all very masculine traits. That is male dominance, male peacockery on full display. Did you know it is the males who are the peacocks shaking their giant tail feathers? True story. Women are simply not loud and proud like that, not even the loud ones.
That’s how I know you’re not a female.
Women are also not likely to try to dominate sports and claim their territory, in quite the same competitive way that men do. When you see women trying to break into men’s sports, its because they had no other opportunity, no other options. Women don’t try to compete in men’s sports to be number one, they invade men’s spaces to have an opportunity to just play. Being number one isn’t even really on the radar. There is no trying to be top dog in some kind of dominance hierarchy.
How do I know you’re a mediocre male with a need to be top dog in your own imaginary dominance hierarchy? You invade and take over women’s sports to assuage and mollify your own masculinity.
That is how I know you are not a woman.
Don’t even get me started about all the pastors and theobros who proceed to just call real women born women, their sisters even, “sob sisters,” or “twinkies in tight tops” and slap each other on the back about the latest perverse analogy they’ve come up with about the sheer Divinity of male sexuality and how women just need to submit more. Publicly. These are just the parts they’ll say out loud, in front of everyone.
This is why you are not female.
Actual women can recognize the dudebro language of sexual violence. It’s the same darn thing whether it’s tripping off the lips of some guy in a ballgown or coming out of the mouth of a bunch of pastors. Y’all probably want six degrees of separation from woke weirdness, but I just see Sam Brinton as the child of Baptist missionaries, spouting the same perverse and vile sexual attitudes taught by the “faith” he has now allegedly “rejected.”
Why is blackface wrong but womanface is not? Where does your perverse caricature of womanhood even come from??
If you are male suddenly fancying himself “female,” YOU will get selected as the official representative for “International Women’s Day” on the Hersheys chocolate bar. You will be voted “Woman of the Year.” You will even be put in charge of nuclear waste for the whole country… at least until you start blatantly stealing women’s clothing right out of airports.
Lastly, I know you are not a woman because you are not punished in quite the same way I am. My glorious proclamation of all things feminine is likely to get kicked off of twitter and censored on wordpress and facebook. I’ll be rejected by feminists and the church alike.
I was born this way, I have little choice in the matter, but of course, the “born this way” rule suddenly doesn’t apply to me and and my kind. I sometimes joke, “men have never met a double standard they didn’t like.” Your attempt to stake claim to all of womanhood will probably just get you a political appointment and several government contracts. People will call you “so brave,” they will rally around your perceived victimhood, and nurture you like a lost little boy who must be forever defended and protected.
Heck, and half of those trying to protect and defend you while you steal our very identity, will be women themselves, always programmed to step in and rescue the lost and broken boys.
Women, they just become the problem, the haters, the bigots, the cranks who just won’t “get educated,” get with the program, accept the new narrative. Ironically, being women, a good chunk of us already have, we’ve surrendered, we’ve submitted, we’ve even rallied to protect and defend the lost little boys of the gender confusion wars, like the mothers we innately are. Hey, it’s cool, just take my gold medal, own the bathroom, borrow my dresses, and chest feed your babies. It’s all good, I’ll just continue to get changed on the front seat of my car. You take my locker room.
That’s how I know you are not female.
Even now my heart just aches for what we’ve done, for what we’ve allowed to happen, for how we’ve let our schools crank out children whose goal in life now is to just raise enough money to remove their genitals. Think about how insane that is, how tragic! I just wail in despair, they are so brainwashed, so young, and my anger about the complete disregard they show for the safety and well being of women born women, many who have already been traumatized, is tempered by my tears for the adult created, purposefully groomed young casualties of this culture war.
Don’t even get me started about a tone deaf and brain-dead church dominated by a bunch of prideful hyper masculinized wannabe, red pill pastors having a popularity contest to see who can spew the most click bait.
You haven’t got these scars. You don’t carry this kind of pain and you never will, no matter how many pills you take or how much surgery you have. Your pain will be your own, but it still won’t be the pain of a woman.
That is how I know you are not female.
This reminds me of the funny bit about the time some guy went to his boss and told him he was transgender and identified as a woman now. So, the boss told him, “Hey, that’s great, if that’s the case I can cut your pay by 30% now.”
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LOL! Yep, that’s exactly how it works.
I know, I know, we’re living in clown world, but yesterday darn near everyone decided to recognize some transgendered guy for International Women’s Day.
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If I’m in touch with my feminine side does that mean I’ve transitioned? (I am attracted to some shades of pink!) As I’ve aged my breasts have become more defined. Hmmm… One of the pills I take causes a bit of constipation.. so I do know what childbirth is like (in fact, I had twins just the other day. Ooops.. TMI). I do get a little bitchy with the phases of the moon these days. In fact, just the other day I made the bed on my own when I got up. I think I am there.
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It’s ironic and counter intuitive, but men embracing their feminine side, produces healthy, calmer, more masculine men. Transgenderism is all about suppressed rage, the destruction of all things female through dominance and conquest. It tends to be a red flag for some real dystopian fascism and tyranny.
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Everything about humankind can be made political… even sexual identity. Given all the superfluous requirements required today for indulging in simple communication to not offend someone, I shudder at the “new” context for initiating an intimate romantic encounter.
“Hello, dear. I was wondering if you feel like engaging in the act of procreation this evening (actual conception being optional and open to discussion, or course). Rest assured I will not be objectifying your gender in this process, nor taking advantage of you physically or abusing you emotionally. Rest assured the only satisfaction I will get from this will be entirely my unselfish satisfaction in being devoted to the Lord, asking for His ongoing forgiveness at any untoward thoughts I may have during this encounter. If I involuntarily express verbal inflections, please consider that my struggle against the Powers of Darkness and not pontifications of impure desire of the flesh. What say you, dear? Can we submit to ourselves and the Lord as equal partners, regardless of our respective genders having been assigned at birth or not?”
Hmm.. suddenly I’m not in the mood.
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LOL, except you cannot ever, “submit to ourselves and the Lord as equal partners,” at least not in a protestant context, because everything must always be “theologically asymmetrical. ” I wouldn’t know what that means on account of being female (which means too challenged by geometry to understand and easily deceived) but there are some remarkable screeds being written as we speak.
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I still can’t be humorous about this subject. The reality is life sucks for everyone, lest I be unfair, but being a woman definitely comes with certain problems that are different from man problems. You will be disrespected, men will make major life decisions for you, and when you express any negative feelings or thoughts, men will diagnose you with personality disorders or mental illnesses. That’s what it means to be a woman. Marriage is only worth it for the children. Otherwise, I don’t recommend it unless a woman has her own source of income and the desire and ability to follow her own pursuits because that offsets the power imbalance. Transgender women are just more domineering men, and I don’t need that in my life. No woman does.
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You don’t have to be humorous about the subject, Jill. It’s a complete abomination and not how things should be.
Myself, I laugh as much as possible simply because of the saying, “she who laughs, lasts.” A merry heart is good, like a medicine, as it says in the Bible. I tend to take things too seriously and forget that only one thing matters. That one thing is not the foolishness of men or the idiocracy of our world.
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Usually, I like to remain positive and just throw myself in my pursuits like the accordion, but I’ve had a hard time maintaining that positivity lately. Joy is in my heart somewhere, though.
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It’s okay to not be joyous all of the time. I’ve learned that grief, anger, even fear, can be forms of worship, a type of rejoicing. Sometimes it’s those dark nights of the soul that will draw us closer to God. They can serve a vital purpose.
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I agree, humor is good medicine. I was wounded (understatement) when I was systematically pushed out of a ministry I had helped found, pushed out (let go) by people I had helped hire! (Long story, not worth going into.) I wrote and drew a comic strip series modeled after “Dilbert,” which I shared only with the other people who had been pushed out in similar ways (mostly women – “The men are here to take over, you girls can go home now and make dinner.”). It was strangely healing, as we all got a good laugh and encouraged one another with the knowledge that God did not see us in the way those in control did. Our mission became praying for that ministry daily, doing the spiritual warfare. I believe that was, and is, in fact, the most powerful ministry I had and still have.
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Brilliant post IB, you speak many truths in it that society refuses to recognize. I know several parents with daughters all going through nearly identical issues of extreme sexual confusion, depression and anxiety. All of them have changed their “gender identity” several times and remain trapped in in a false world they were led to believe changing their sex would solve all of their problems. We could debate for hours the reasons why this is happening,but the bottom line is it’s tragic and really does not bode for the feature.
On a side note, I got shut down and told to “just relax” by some senior people at work because I suggested some changes that needed to be made (in a very carefully worded email of course, because I’m female!). It was insulting and maybe I’m wrong but I don’t see them reacting that way to my male colleagues. Oh well, I cash their checks and laugh.
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Thank you for your kind words, Tricia.
Ha! You just keep cashing those checks and laughing. Long ago I also gave up on those thoughtful and carefully worded suggestions at work, because yes, the response is often just insulting and demeaning.
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I used to knock on doors for the Republican Party in Virginia trying to get out the vote. Occasionally, we would inadvertently knock on the door of a gung-ho Democrat.
A man answered the door. He referred me to his wife, and she brought me inside. I would have been perfectly happy to stay outside, but being invited in is usually a good sign. Next thing I know I am confronted by this lady and her daughter, and they are trying to lecture me on lesbian rights (the daughter is confused).
Once I figured out what was going on, I suspect I just radiated sadness and pity. I was curious, but this was not a safe place. Argue with an emotional mother and a cocky teenage girl inside their home? Nope!
By the time I left (which was as quickly as I graciously could), I was convinced the father was thoroughly depressed. When he referred me to his wife, he acted that way, and he wanted nothing to do with this discussion. This was his wife’s agenda.
The daughter? She was an attractive and probably intelligent nineteen, but she was throwing her life away, and her mother was encouraging her. Why?
Who is to blame for this LGBTQ agenda? There are people who are pushing this nonsense, and they need to be unconditionally thwarted, but fixing the blame won’t fix the problem. What staggers me with perplexity is how utterly ignorant We the People have to be to believe we can choose our sex. Yet we have people running the country who want us to believe a man can be a woman. If that is the case, I can choose to be a 25-year-old, 6 and a half foot tall, black, Olympic basketball player. At the same time, I can also be a tenured professor at MIT and numerous publications in nuclear physics. It is all make believe anyway, but I will still want that paycheck from MIT. It is my right!
Damn the pronouns! Call me Doctor and look over my head when you are talking to me.
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Excellent rant, IB.
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How dare you!!! Telling the truth!!!! Keep it up!
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Aren’t you unfair, introducing reality into a political discussion? Next, you’ll likely claim that my Y chromosome makes me male! Humpty Dumpty and Orwell warned that words mean whatever the speaker intends, right? At least, so long as our DNA impels us toward political behavior … Would you like to predict the biological gender of the majority of those who may attack you over this?
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I would luuuuv to see a health facility have the courage to campaign:
We invite all women giving birth the heartiest of welcomes in our facilities. Yeah, good luck with that.
Smacks of common sense and generational goodness. But who would call this irrational?
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Oh, that would be so amazing! Just a tiny bit of common sense would go so far to establish some trust in a healthcare system that has lost it’s darn mind.
Recently I went to the dentist and we still have masking mandates here…but only until you are seated. Much like in a restaurant, you can take your mask off once you sit down because apparently that’s a safe zone where germs can’t gather. I usually don’t have dental anxiety, but watching all these professionals go along with the sheer foolishness of it all, gave me some pause. Suddenly I was a bit hesitant to let these people handle any sharp instruments. 🙂
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Ha!
For thousands of years men and women were easily recognizable- even by they with questionable lifestyle choices.
All I know is God is EXTREMELY long suffering- and His patience must be out of this world.
I do notice though that His hiccups
(earthquakes) have increased ….
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Could be your best post yet! I think the best analogy I’ve heard about all this gender stuff is that one hundred years from now, archeologists will dig up our bodies, and they won’t find men in dresses, or women with masculine feelings or vice versa. You know what they’ll find? Female and male skeletons! That’s it! A transgendered person will never really know what it’s like to be the opposite sex because they weren’t born that way. They didn’t live their whole life that way. They can change they way they dress, the way they identify, the way they “feel” (I’m really starting to dislike that word), but they will still have either combination of XX or XY chromosomes. They haven’t figured out a way to “fix” that yet. Happy women’s day to all the XX chromosome females out there…we WERE born that way.
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Thank you, Clyde. Much appreciated.
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“Why is blackface wrong but womanface is not?” WOW. That question never occurred to me, but yes, yet another double standard.
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Yeah.. and then there’s that offensive “orgasm face”! God help us all!
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There is another face too, called “common courtesy,” or “basic respect.” It’s about not being rude to your sisters in Christ,
and honoring your own human dignity in the process.
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??? … Never mind, I don’t want to know.
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It’s a pop tongue-in-cheek “thing” that’s gone around, although obviously I’ve presented it to a non-familiar audience as levity.. which I alone bear ill-timed responsibility.
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