A bit amusing, for such a frugal minimalist who hates commercialism, I like to go all out for Christmas.
(Another name for it is “cheap,” I am ridiculously cheap like your grandmother who survived the Great Depression and now washes paper towels and hangs them up to dry.)
Recently someone lectured me about the environment and how we need to recycle and it took everything I had to not to just blurt out, “Child, we practically invented recycling! Where in the heck have you been?” Reduce, reuse, and repurpose. It’s a way of life, for goodness sakes.
So why shouldn’t we skip the gifts? Because gifts are the reason for the season. Jesus is the gift we are celebrating. He gave us a gift, His unmerited favor. Giving and receiving small gifts is symbolic, a token expression of His great gift that we can never repay. Every time we give a gift we remember the gift we have been given.
And when we receive a gift we didn’t earn, we don’t really deserve, we weren’t expecting, it is humbling and sometimes even awkward. Ah sheesh, I didn’t get you anything. It’s too expensive. This is embarrassing. Well, that’s kind of what’s Jesus Christ did for us and it often feels much the same.
Y’all can indulge small children if you like, make their Christmas present dreams come true whenever possible, but I’m thinking mostly of grown people here and the fun of handmade gifts. There is nothing sweeter then a box of fudge or some knitted socks. Write a poem, paint a rock, send a letter, make a wreath, bake some cookies, frame a photograph. I’m a huge fan of homemade gifts. Honestly, it’s not just about money but rather sharing your heart, putting some thought into it. Also, we older people tend to have stuff coming out of our ears. Small children often desire the latest thing, but us adults tend to already have everything we need and more. How many ties and socks can you get for dad?
Make gifts for people and remember to make yourself one, too. If you are alone, that is doubly true. Wrap a gift for yourself and treasure what and Who it symbolizes.
The struggle is real, the financial (and emotional trauma) of Christmas has always been with us. This year there is also a lot of inflation, financial struggle, and confusion out in the world. Tragically people often go into debt, trying to buy happiness for the people they love. The thing is, happiness can’t be bought. If I had a billion dollars I would want to give my kids good health, a strong relationship with Jesus, peace of mind, and moments of joy. The problem being, those “things” are not really things at all. One simply can’t buy the unseen things that truly matter. I want to give you a happy life, but alas that is just not within my power.
So if you wrestle with these things which I hope you do because that means you are in good company, here are a couple of other blogs talking about similar things, “How To Survive Christmas” and “Are You Skipping the Gifts This Year?”
Great advice, insanity, and the links are good reading too. Twice in my lifetime I can remember getting recycled gifts, gifts I had given and now given back to me! Unwittingly of course. Loved that! I don’t have room for it but does anyone have a room/closet where they just store gifts to “recycle”? Good idea if you ask me! Otherwise what a waste!
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Wouldn’t a gift closet be wonderful? You’d always have something on hand to give a way. No more trying to find a last minute present for a surprise guest. Too funny about a recycled gift making its rounds and coming back to you.
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Had a hard time keeping a straight face, but I really was grateful they hadn’t just junked them. 😭
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I love making things for people. A few months ago I painted flower pots for my daughter, granddaughter, and daughter-in-law with their favorite colors. It drives my man nuts how I repurpose stuff sometimes. I tell him to hush it saves him money. I buy deli meat from I believe Hillshire Farms and the bowl it comes in makes perfect storage containers and they even made their label easy to remove gotta love that. I use them not only to store food, but to also store really small crafting things my cats would otherwise steal.
I think crafting gifts for all occasions whenever possible is a great idea. I have made butter bowls into flower pots painting them to make them pretty and had people ask where I got them from and they laugh when I say my kitchen. My Christmas present will be a new computer chair because my insane cats broke the back of the one I have now.
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That is awesome! I’m telling you, I can never have enough painted flower pots. I also have a bunch of “tupperware” that isn’t tupperware at all, but rather lunch meat containers. The best part of that is when someone forgets to bring back your container and you can genuinely say, “don’t even worry about it!”
I’m glad you are getting a new computer chair! A good chair can make a world of difference.
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I am sorry I am just seeing this. It has been rainy here which is a blessing since we have been drought, but it makes me ache all over so I roll up in my comforter on the sofa and growl a lot lol. I can’t either painted pots are the best and if you do it yourself it is so much cheaper too. If you want them outside cover them with UV protection varnish. I agree also on not caring if someone brings back a bowl that once had lunch meat in it. Yes, a good chair is important and evidently putting my my fat cats on a diet too.
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Some excellent thoughts. Many want to give up gift-giving. I think what we need to give up, however, is the guilt of not giving a gift.
Here is some advice I have not actually taken to heart, but it seems good advice. The best thing we can give someone is our time. We can think about our loved ones, listen to our loved ones, work with our loved ones, play with our loved ones, and pray for our loved ones. If we know our loved ones well enough, we will think of something to give them. If not, then we have already given them more than we know.
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Oh, a big amen to that Tom! Our time is desperately needed by many people right now, even just a kind word or a listening ear. There are a lot of lonely, stressed out people in the world today.
Proverbs 15:17 says, “Better is a dinner of herbs, where love is, Than a stalled ox and hatred therewith.” So eating weeds where love is, is much preferable to having the finest steak with the hateful.
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Somehow, it seems always the self preservation that needs little help while the social side draws less spontaneous support. But individual survival is not species success, hence our perennial hangup between the two?
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I am not sure, Jack! I’m still debating that one. Self preservation seems pretty natural and intuitive whereas species success seems unnatural, a lot of work, and hardly worth the bother. Of course that could just be me projecting and tainting the research, LOL!
I question whether or not species success is dependent on tribalism and community cooperation or if it is actually dependent on preserving the rights of the individual. Obviously our entire country seems to be wrestling with this one, too.
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Years ago a struggling missionary couple gave me a sweet gift of a glass jar filled with little pieces of paper with Bible verses on them, rolled into tiny scrolls and tied with ribbon (or was it yarn?). The top of the jar was covered with a piece of fabric and tied with a ribbon. It probably cost them less than a dollar to make, but the time and thoughtfulness they had put into it was precious to me. Whenever I pulled out a verse to start my day, I thought of them fondly – and I hope I said a prayer for them.
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That’s so sweet! Definitely a meaningful gift. Someone once made me a little tree branch that had, “I am the vine, you are the branches…” painted on it. It was just perfect.
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❤ !
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As usual, I agree with this. Oh i need to get busy making my gifts….
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Could not agree more. ❤
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I really don’t like gift giving. It’s so difficult and uncomfortable, can never think of anything, even for my closest family. I think the creative genes flew right past me.
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Yes, I hear you, I am very similar in that way! Gift giving can be uncomfortable and difficult. There is lots to be learned from it and it can really brighten someone’s day, so I’m afraid we’re stuck with the tradition.
I used to also say the creative gene just flew past me. Perhaps it just skips a generation? That wasn’t quite true however. Talent and artistry may have skipped past me, but I got a ton of creativity.
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