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Cynicism was actually a form of Greek philosophy, the most famous Cynic being Diogenes who simply lived in a ceramic jar on the streets of Athens. I empathize and perhaps even envy him his ceramic jar.
However, cynicism in the modern context is, “a disposition of disbelief in the sincerity or goodness of human motives and actions.”
Wait, is “goodness of human motives” even a thing?? When did that start?! So you see, I totally resemble that remark and definition, too.
I am really of the mindset that a bit of cynicism is a good thing, a God given blessing, but too much of it can quickly become sin. I recognize the danger of too much cynicism in myself, and to some extent, the danger it presents to us as a culture at large.
To let go of one’s cynicism one has to be willing to take a risk and to be thought foolish or even, to actually be made foolish. I gave a gal 20 bucks a few weeks back simply in protest against my own cynicism. Naturally she had two small children, her boyfriend had left her, and she had no gas or milk for the baby. Her performance was not Academy Award material. At all.
The Lord whispered, “yes, but it’s not about her, it’s about you.” Twenty bucks is some cheap therapy and the Lord was right, I needed to deal with my own issues. In the process I was able to confront my fears of being taken advantage of, of having my emotions played, and of being scammed. Sure enough right after an older woman promptly declared, “you are so dumb,” to me, which I could only laugh and say, “yes, amen!”
Needless to say, I am not advising handing money over to scammers or abandoning all common sense. I’m just saying, what rules over us more, our fears of being thought dumb by others or doing what we know to be right? I’ve learned a lot in the past couple of years about the value of letting others think, “you are so dumb,” and simply doing what you know to be right.
That’s often what lurks beneath our cynicism, a fear of being tricked, deceived, exploited, and thought dumb. Well, another famous guy once wisely said, “If you want to improve, be content to be thought foolish and stupid with regard to external things…..”
We are really living in a world that has gotten so cynical it’s hard to even do satire anymore, and for good reason, too! There is ample evidence that we should probably be employing more skepticism than usual. The thing is, we can easily become blinded by our own cynicism, distrustful of everyone, and forever looking for the trick behind the treat.
I started to catch on to this truth when trying to celebrate marriage. I realize a lot of people have been hurt and struggled with relationships, but that shouldn’t mean we now no longer even believe in things like love, romance, family, marriage. Fidelity? Integrity? Faithfulness? Loyalty? Our cynicism tends to paint with a very broad brush and wipe out any potential good thing one might find in the world.
Also, if one no longer believes in something like loyalty, it is pretty unlikely one will ever act in a loyal manner. Our individual worldviews matter a great deal and an entire culture built by complete cynics always certain there is a man lurking behind the curtain deceiving us, cannot survive. We have to be able to take things at face value and to believe in at least the possibility of good things, of potential positive outcomes.
Don’t take this the wrong way, but we weren’t designed to be, “safe from all harm.” The modern world advertising, culture, politics, just comes at us 24/7 with these endless fear based messages about how “if you just do the right thing, you will be saved.” What is “doing the right thing?” Buying our product.
That’s a really secular message, one that has also plagued the church in subtle ways, probably for centuries. There are still numerous arguments going on about grace versus works. Sometimes it really is that bad as in, “buy our product and you will be saved.” Call me crazy, but I think Jesus is far more about, expend yourself. Take risks. Don’t always chose safety. Die to yourself, follow me. The goal is not really to buy a product and be saved, the goal is to spend everything you’ve been freely given.
Ephesians 4:31-32 says, “ Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.”
That right there is a full time job in the modern world. It is not so easy to be tenderhearted and forgiving in a world totally worthy of our unbridled cynicism. It is not a job for the faint of heart, let me tell ya.
But wait… don’t you wanna be “the first in your neighborhood” for anything? Are you REALLY sure your personal hygiene routine alone won’t offend the olfactory nerves of others? After all, the astronauts took TANG to the moon!
If you want girls to take notice, don’t forget.. a little dab’ll do ya.
And let’s not forget the recent product being sold by some chick-who-owns-the-company telling you that you need a butt crevice cream to keep the smell down.
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Yes, Doug, quite true. It’s gotten much worse however, because rather than smelling good, it’s now all about safety, life and death, dire consequences. I can laugh about such things, but young people don’t know any better.
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Butt crevice cream? Or is it crevasse?
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Well, I’d not want to fall into either one.
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I don’t know . . . kinda depends on who she is.
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I’m so amused Doug by the cagey slip in of your tang/ moon thing.
I can’t even begin to tell u how many young people dismiss that moon landing because they were not glued to Cronkite- but actually looked at so called evidence.
(Sorry to the good lady here for the detour, just couldn’t leave well enough alone)
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No need to be sorry, I always enjoy hearing from you!
Whether it was real or faked, something that fascinates me about the moon landing, they allegedly took communion. It was broadcast on TV, groups documented it, there are cups on display, and yet all that was later edited out and completely erased from history. It went down the rabbit hole. Also falling down the rabbit hole, allegedly reading scripture from space on Christmas 1968. Apparently science and faith have since been forbidden to ever mix, so they went back and made edits. Edits!
Well shoot, if one can edit those details to make them more politically correct and pleasing to modern secularism, who am I to say what else can’t be faked, altered, or edited?
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“Fortunately” science and technology has reached a point where pretty much anything and everything can be faked, thus blurring reality and blocking truth to the point where we either have faith in something, or simply drown from all the treading to stay afloat.
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Tk u kindly ma’am, back atcha.
Just a quick word if I may. If something is true, it can withstand the most serious and exacting scrutiny. None would argue.
Of the thousands of tapes, vids, commentary, opinions, etc etc- there is ONE event that stands above all that puts things in the correct context, and it is the live interview of the 3 men before the press.
Supposedly the greatest event the world has ever seen, ‘ one small step….’ etc, and the minute they walked to their seats, and started to talk….. there was not elation so like somebody being the mvp at the super bowl- but careful, guarded, and body language that betrays the event. Watch it, decide for yourself. After all, first hand witnesses right?
We could follow another trail and ask Why NASA needed Walt Disney….. yeah, talk about cartoons and editing. Digression over. 😉
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Another era, another time. Not too sure it was all that simpler, but certainly we were a bit more innocent than today.
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Innocent or gullible? Govts don’t lie, ever…….. Flatten the curve? Two weeks? Get vaxxed- no c-19?
Who controls the press? So yeah, cynical.
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My motto for more abundant living is this:
“If you loan somebody $20, and you never see that person again, it was probably worth it.”
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Ha! Yes, that is wisdom.
I really enjoy some of the things the Bible teaches us about not lending, not charging interest. If it’s a small amount for your friends and family, just give it as a gift and let it go! People will actually ruin relationships over resentment and triffles.
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Yes, give it as a gift! When people feel they “owe” you, even if you tell them you don’t care, one day you’ll see them cross the street so they don’t have to pass you on the sidewalk… Sad…
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Yes. It reminds me of some advice I read in a Canadian Indian paper decades ago: the best way to get rid of undesirables is to lend them money. The greater the sum, the less likely are you to meet them again.
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I have plenty of reason to be quite cynical and I used to be that way. I was a very bitter and angry child and young woman. I had no trust in men except my daddy and he died when i was 10 years old. No trust for women except my grandma and she died when I was 12 years old. From there I trusted no one and well relationships with men as I got older was a nightmare. I honestly had no reason I could see to put my trust in humans when all, but two of them had failed me.
Friend wise I have two one is male the other female the male friend is my best friend and other than my man one of the few I would trust my life with the female friend is from high school and lives around 1000 miles away, but I trust her. I will say I get along with men much better than women. Men will let you know how they feel about you up front most of the time whereas women will smile to your face and hug you while driving the knife deep in your back and twisting it. Yes, I have issues with women I don’t like the games they play with each other and with men. As much harm as I have received at the hands of men I have received much worse mental harm from women in my life all starting with my own mother.
I am not as cynical as I once was I laugh more often these days and can honestly say despite all that is wrong with me and my health I am a happy person. I don’t take crap off of people still though I have had enough of those games to last whatever is left of my life on this earth. I try to be as loving about it as possible, but I let them know if they want to be in my life there will be no games and needless to say other than my man I can count my friends on one hand and you know that is okay.
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I am pleased to hear you laugh more these days! Me, too. Thank God, literally. 🙂
We have a similar history and background. I also used be much angrier and even more cynical, and I too have struggled far more with women, than with men. I also don’t like games, especially passive aggressive ones, which women tend to engage in more frequently.
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Yes, thank God and I am so glad you laugh more these days too.
We do have similar pasts and I know you understand and yeah I can see you being much like I was decades ago. Oh I completely hate passive aggressive games too and i dealt with far too many women that played those games. I tried to educate my daughter about women like that as well and I always told her if a friend is willing to talk bad about other friends when they are not around then what are they saying about you when you aren’t around?
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Well said, IB! As I’ve grown older I have to watch the tendency to be too cynical (even if only in thought and not in actual words), but I couldn’t remain as naïve as I used to be, either… 🙂 When you wrote, “We have to be able to take things at face value and to believe in at least the possibility of good things, of potential positive outcomes” that is what I’m working on now at this point in my life (and I just turned 70 a few months ago). Eek… that sounds so old. I’m still trying to adjust to being in the “senior” status. It snuck up on me too fast… 🙂
Also, you wrote, “Call me crazy, but I think Jesus is far more about, expend yourself. Take risks. Don’t always chose safety. Die to yourself, follow me. The goal is not really to buy a product and be saved, the goal is to spend everything you’ve been freely given.” And we’ve been given so much, and I’m not talking about materially or moneywise, but about all the things that money can’t buy. Thanks for your thoughtful post on cynicism! It is well stated… 🙂
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Amen! Someone smart once said that as we get older we should also be getting softer, gentler, and more filled with wonder and awe. I thought that was a great perspective. Children tend to have those qualities and we admire them. It’s much preferable to growing old, bitter, and yelling at people to get off my lawn. 🙂
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I went down to Boston this morning to visit my mom. As I entered the part of the city where she lives, I encountered panhandlers at the lights near her home. They had signs and walked up to my window, literally 6 inches away from my drivers side window, asking for money. My already existing cynicism almost tripped my dormant road rage and tempted me to open my drivers side door quickly and assertively. Luckily for the panhandler, I didn’t. I will not be encouraging these people by handing out money anymore.
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Ha! If you’re going into the city, all bets are off. It’s nearly impossible to not to be cynical in the midst of all that traffic and human misery.
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I guess that in an individually competittive species, cynicism is a survival trait. And it is more help when we can laugh about it …
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Oh yes! It is a God given gift, I tell ya. So is a sense of humor. We should be laughing early and often.
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I’ve been called naive for not being cynical enough, but that’s because I’m a stoic, not a cynic. Ultimately, stoicism fails because there’s too much relying on one’s own ability to reason, but I do prefer the emphasis on overcoming destructive emotions. In Christian writing circles, authors would proclaim that true to life fiction is gritty and dark and that’s what we should be writing. How cynical–as though goodness and light and joy are not real. As though happiness and sweetness doesn’t exist. I could never be a cynic. In the modern sense. In the original sense, the two schools were very similar, but cynics were absurdly stingy. So I couldn’t be an old-fashioned one either.
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I’m with you on how cynical it is to believe that “true to life” fiction must be gritty and dark! That is probably a truth of human nature and marketing, however. We are drawn to the click bait, we turn on the news to see all the bad things in the world, and we seem to like to read about the bleakest things possible. Those things trigger passionate emotions like fear, anger and outrage and I think we people can literally become addicted to our own brain chemistry. I sometimes call this stuff “fear porn.”
I once read a ton of Dean Koontz because in the midst of all his scary tales, I began to pick up on this thread of humanity going on, this need to write a happy ending, this underlying belief in the value of human goodness. Maybe I just sensed God’s presence and work in his life.
I really don’t know how to fix this problem but we people need to learn how to take what is dark and gritty about life and make it beautiful, and then start indulging in that kind of thing as entertainment.
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I take after my namesake. I am a skeptic. The difference between a cynic and a skeptic is subtle, but important.
Skepticism, like cynicism and stoicism is a school of philosophy, and I suppose it is the one to which I use to belong, but like my namesake I too experienced that moment in which I was convinced and believed.
The cynic has trouble believing in people. I wonder if the cynic finds God easier to trust. Probably not.
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God is perfect and trustworthy, One we can truly believe in. He is the same yesterday, today, and tomorrow, and He is faithful. He will never leave you or forsake you.
I am laughing because, nope, in spite of that truth, cynics generally do not even trust God. Much of what I write today is rooted in learning to trust God and building a relationship with Him.
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Hmmm, I like this differential between cynicism and skepticism. I can be pretty cynical but I do believe I’m more of a skeptic than cynic,
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Thank you, Clyde. 🙂
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Appreciated this post as there are certain things I’ve become way too cynical about. It’s good to focus on the beauty of life and remember it’s not always about us!
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Amen, Tricia! We probably all need to focus a bit more on the beauty of life.
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