I used to work for one of the first stewardesses and she would tell me about the good old days, not always so good of course, but in her lifetime she got to see commercial airlines come into being, telephones, television, computers, even indoor plumbing and electricity. She really liked the excitement, the science fiction coming to life, the march towards progress.
A bit funny, she loved to watch cartoons, the Jetsons, whereas I much preferred the Flintstones. She was all about marching forward and I longed to just turn back time. Still do.
I miss just “having summer,” looking forward to it with some sense of celebration, rather than having to, declare a state of emergency! For crying out loud in my neck of the woods we now have “cooling stations” and churches out delivering bottled water to “the vulnerable.” It was 82 degrees yesterday! Hardly Death Valley, people. Coloring the map all red with scary electric bolts and calling it a “heat advisory” doesn’t change the fact that it really is simply “summer.” Comes around every July and August.
I remember when our “cooling stations” were lakes, beaches, and sprinklers in the yard. If you were about to dehydrate and die, you knew you could always save yourself by drinking out of a hose. Good times!
Something else I really miss from the “good old days” that came and went in my lifetime is freedom, including the freedom to hurt yourself. With the creation of insurance and lawsuits, we’ve lost all that. Today it’s all about safety, safety, safety. I used to actually run across log booms, dangerous for sure and do not recommend, but experiencing the freedom to try something just because it’s there, is not something you see very often anymore.
Recently I tried to explain to a kid what a merry go round and teeter totter were. He looked at me like I’d lost my mind. “So we used to spin around until someone went flying off or got sick,” and he actually said, I’m sure nobody let you do that. “Let you,” as if there has always been an insurance agent and a public health official standing over you monitoring every step you take? Made me want to cry.
I long for the good old days when everybody just had a cold, or even maybe something worse that might kill you, but whatever. Life is short, make hay while the sun shines. Contrast that to today where we actually have QR codes posted at the grocery store so you can scan and get a color coded covid risk assessment telling you whether or not it’s safe to go indoors, among the unmasked. And people line up to do this!
I really miss privacy, too. It’s sad, just in the last ten years or so I’ve lost my ability to even explain why it matters. Confidentiality? Human dignity? Whatever for? Today we just have cameras on every corner and all your personal data is for sale to the highest bidder. Today the thinking is, if you don’t have anything to hide, why would you care?
Try explaining to a generation used to documenting everything they do on social media while taking endless selfies, why privacy matters. They don’t get it. It just does not compute. It’s like overshare and too much information 24/7 is actually the goal. I kid you not, recently I actually wrote in desperation, “TMI, TMI,” and the gal said, what’s that? Too Much Information? Okay, what’s that?
It’s why we don’t live stream our colonoscopy to all our friends groups? Why not? What’s wrong with a colonoscopy? Ai yi yi.
This stuff will all sort itself out someday, somewhere over the rainbow, perhaps. I however, may not sort myself out at all. I may well just remain chronically maladjusted, screaming at people to get off my lawn.
🤣 so true, my friend! I’m terrified to think of what the “sorting it out” will entail because that’s my kids’ future. I foresee a very different life for them . 😕 So your title for this blog instantly triggered the Judds’ song “Granpa”in my head . I asked my 18 year old son who likes old country music if he knew it . He said no but he that he had just been singing Merle Haggard’s song “Rolling Downhill ( like a snowball) in his head . Of course I had to go watch the videos on YouTube. My kids, having been homeschooled, do not fit into today’s culture. They had two very countercultural parents who tend to glorify the old days. But I just told him that my mom’s childhood any do great and that he needs to make the most of his life despite the current state of the world. All we can do is pray and help them remember what’s true and good. 🙏
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Ha! Well said. Sometimes when I get worried about my kid’s futures I have to remind myself that they were, “made for such a time as this.” God has them specially designed to shine their light in the times they are born into and to give God glory with their lives.
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I was born in 1962 and I remember by 1967 my mom was throwing us out the door after breakfast in the summer and told us to stay within earshot and we knew that meant a square block because she had a set of pipes on her. We would go home for lunch, and then again before the street lights came on.
We climbed trees and one time I jumped out of a big tree into a lumber pile running a roofing nail attached to a board. I walked all the way home with a board attached to my foot because it went all the way through my shoe and came out the top of my foot. We played in creeks catching crawdads, minnows, snakes, and tadpoles. We got dirty making mud pies and rolling around in the dirt and grass and we were healthy hearty kids that seldom ever got sick. My family owned a station wagon back then and my stepdad put a mattress in the back when we went on trips we took toys, pillows, and blankets and rode back there making faces at the people in the cars behind us. We played, we napped, and we rolled all over the back at times because our stepdad drove like a maniac. Today they would be thrown in jail for neglect and child endangerment. We got most of our childhood shots, but I still managed to get mumps, and we both had chicken pox twice, and rubella.
I find myself longing for those carefree days again I feel most kids were happier and healthier.
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Oh my goodness, good times! Fond memories on my end, too. I think kids were much happier and healthier out in the dirt, experiencing some freedom and fresh air. 🙂
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I remember riding with my friend on top of a huge pile of brush in the back of a pickup truck, on the way to the dump. We were singing and laughing and having a wonderful time, especially when the truck (which was being driven by her dad) went over the railroad tracks and we went flying up into the air. It’s an experience every kid should have, but most never will. Sad.
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When I was a kid people would dump stuff in ditches along country roads and my stepdad would take me junking with him. I would be climbing over all kinds of twisted broken wood, glass, and metal looking for things we could sell to the junkyard. It was hard work and dangerous I am allergic to bees and yellow jackets would often build nests in those piles of junk. My stepdad always said equal work equal pay and would give me half of all we earned. Most kids don’t even do household chores anymore. They are not taught any kind of responsibility. We knew if we did something stupid there were consequences for that.
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My mom always said a child needs to eat a pound of dirt a day to be healthy and I believe she was right. Kids today are to coddled making them weak and quite whiny compared to the kids of our times with sun kissed cheeks, skinned knees, and dirty faces.
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Sorry, but I had to laugh at walking home with a board attached to your foot. Painful, I’m sure.
I think I was about six years old living here in Alaska back in the late 60’s. I learned the hard way about those metal merry go rounds. We were at recess in the middle of the winter, and it was well below freezing. I don’t know what possessed me, but that frosty looking gray metal was irresistible so I licked it. My tongue instantly froze to it. Right then, the teacher started blowing her whistle indicating recess was over and everyone was running to go back inside. I couldn’t really holler for help, and I didn’t want to be late getting back to class. So I just jerked my head back and ripped the hide off my tongue. Pretty sure I had tears running down my face, but I didn’t say a word to anyone. It hurt like all get out, but I guarantee you I learned my lesson.
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Looking back now it was kind of funny and it did hurt like the dickens too. The look on my moms face was priceless. They had to take me to the ER because the nail was rusty and then I found out I am allergic to tetanus shots not severely, but it was not pleasant. My sister stuck her tongue on a frozen flagpole at school and she did what you did and it was horrible so I can only imagine what you went through. I imagine eating was torture especially salty foods..
Back then we learned though often the hard and painful way now kids cannot skin their knees anymore without a whole bunch of padding being added next. Forget about them getting dirty too and they are often as sickly as they come. My best friend has a son and when he was little he was seldom allowed to play outside or get the normal lumps and bumps this boy was almost constantly sick and his mom said she didn’t understand and I told her are stopping him from building natural immunity through playing in the dirt. My mom always said a child needs to eat a pound of dirt a day to be healthy.
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I have a sister who is still a flight attendant, stewardess is a word they still use? Anyway, I’m sure the conversation NEVER came up in her 30 yrs of air travel re. whether she was female or male, what she identified as ………………..
Heck, take away the skirts, put on pantsuit, and still, 100% female, without a doubt, no questions asked,
But you touch on many good reminders, that summer is ‘hot’ winter is cold. It’s not ‘global warming’ but the change of the seasons for crying out loud.
That no one care that you had cheerios and you needed to tell others via a photo. Or that your pimple should be on
Time mag.
These people would be scared to death if they had to be alone with their thoughts for 5 m.
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LOL! I really had to think about that word “stewardess.” Are we even still allowed to say that? 🙂
Really good point about being alone with your thoughts for 5 minutes. I think you’ve hit the nail on the head! Learning how to just, “be still and know that I am” is a very important life skill. It will get you through all manner of strife and hardship. It’s okay to be, “bored.” It’s okay to be “alone,” because that’s how you learn we are never truly alone.
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You touch on so many good points! Months ago, I attempted to tell my nephews about the merry-go-round and how we used to spin that thing as fast as we could just to see if anyone would fly off or if they could hold on for dear life. Sometimes we would load that contraption with as many kids as it would hold and spin it like crazy until there were only a couple left holding on. A few times there was some nausea that would ensue, but that was par for the course.
You also mentioned how society treats the weather now verses back then. My dad loved the heat and humidity and hated paying electric bills, so to save money there were many nights in the middle of July and August we would have the windows open and no A/C running in the house. My dad didn’t care if it was 90 degrees at 1 AM… if there was even the slightest breeze, the windows were open and the A/C was off. I recall many nights that I didn’t get much sleep because of the stifling heat.
Ahhhh….good times. 🙂
I feel like growing up in the 70’s and 80’s was probably the best of times because I feel like we were the last generation to actually experience life without a lot of fear that so many parents have today.
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I’m a 70’s, 80’s child myself and can totally relate irfty! It would never have occurred to my dad to ever get A/C so I “suffered” through those losing, hot/humid east coast nights too. Oh, the horror. 😉
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I grew up in West Central Illinois lived there until I was 44 years old and up until the early 2000’s never had AC and it was because I came pretty close to a heat stroke I became super sensitive to heat. I now live near San Antonio Texas and AC is a requirement if you cannot take heat. When I was a little girl we have a big back porch and when it was super hot we slept out there.
I use to love spinning on the merry-go-round as a kid. I had a cousin who accidentally got pulled under one and broke her arm pretty bad, but her mom told now you know what not to do.
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I love this IB! I too miss those lazy summer days, where us kids would take off on bikes for hours on end, only checking in at home when we got hungry. We’d build forts and ramps to jump our bikes off of (yes, I was the ultimate Tom Boy) and it’s a miracle none of us ended up in the hospital. Society has really lost something important with all this safetyism, in fact I dare say this opened the door to mass compliance with all the Covid nonsense and out makes me worry about what’s next.
Speaking of which, during a discussion about digital ID’s and having a chip inserted in your wrist to make credit card payments, my 20 year old nephew stated this a great idea because we wouldn’t have to carry wallets around. Um, noooooo!
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Today’s generation will eagerly accept anything convenient despite the loss of privacy and eventually freedom.
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ha!! Ramps for bikes! I forgot about those. Also, in my neighborhood there were about 15 of us kids who used to ride big wheels and race them down the hill I lived on, only to smash into one another at the bottom of the hill. We were a very wild bunch.
Furthermore, no one ever gave a second thought to getting a tan back then. I think the highest SPF sunscreen we used with like SPF 5 or something. We never thought about skin cancer or UV rays. Yes..it was all over the news back then, but most people didn’t give it a second thought. We just lived our lives…and it’s too bad the majority of people don’t live that way today.
As for your nephew thinking the chip in the arm or hand is a good idea. . . that’s not surprising. I think the majority of that generation and the one to follow will be moving towards that ideology in the near future.
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LOL! I remember big wheels. We would actually ride them down a long ramp and right into the water. I’m pretty sure I always had a sunburn, too.
The vast majority of people I know are quite excited about new technology and can hardly wait for the convenience of just being implanted with a microchip. What could possibly go wrong there, right?? Sheesh.
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Ha, I forgot about big wheel races!
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amen.
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I’m now 70. This song by Graham Nash -it was 1969- was about the Chicago 7. Better days?… I was 17 at the time.
From Wikipedia https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chicago_Seven
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I am with you. Lord, help us.
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When Truman found out that his life was a television show, he sailed away to the edge of the world and walked off the set. Who knew that, in a few years, people would be directing and producing their own Truman Shows? J.
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LOL! A profound thought, Salvageable.
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Less restrictions in the past…and a more fun world
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