Man, do I ever know how to step into a pit of rat tailed maggots! Laughing here, rat tail maggots are pretty much harmless, but just the same, ewww. Sometimes I think God invents creatures just to mess with us.
So this particular pit happened to involve dishonoring and disrespecting older women and pretty much blaming them or us for all the ills of the world, allegedly per Titus 2:4, “That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children..”
You know what’s wrong with the world? It’s an epic fail of older women who are all false accusers, given to much wine, meanspirited, gossips, and baby boomers from hell. Busybodies who are spiritually immature and don’t care about theology like the younger and smarter ones do. Also, u-g-l-y. Did I mention how ugly older women are? Ugly, sinful beasts. There were words, words I tell ya, lots and lots of words that indicate some rather deep seated mommy issues, not to mention, misogyny, a definite unresolved fear of women, lurking in the hearts of mostly young women, but being nurtured and encouraged by men.
Don’t do that guys, don’t let your faith play triangulation games with you like that. It makes you dumb.
Been there and done that with the mommy issues and for good reason too, women can be vile, so this is not a rebuke at all. I am just saying we are called to something higher, we are called to honor our mothers, and that is on an individual level as well as a larger context of, honoring older women in general. It impacts so much of our growth in the Lord, our ability to form healthy relationships, and build healthy communities. Unresolved mommy issues breed dysfunction in men and women that ripples out in the pond and does damage in so many ways. The Bible does say, “The elder women as mothers; the younger as sisters, with all purity.”
“Honor your mother,” it’s at the root of so many things.
Flat out, we are a self absorbed, arrogant, boastful generation. We’ve grown up in a culture where the opinions and wisdom of some pop culture starlet is given far more credence than the wisdom of our mothers. We’ve been taught to worship youth and to dismiss traditional wisdom born of lived experience. In fact, that very term “lived experience” is supposed to make you recoil because you aren’t seeing grandma and grandpa who lived through wars, plagues, and economic collapse, you’re picturing some 30 yr old transgender advocate who is claiming to know more about being a women than women do. His alleged “lived experiences” now trump ours. Rather than rolling our eyes and walking away, we now reject the very notion of authority due to “lived experiences.” That’s how brainwashing works!
My grandma was kind of my lifeline to the world and taken from me too soon, murdered in a robbery. God is good however, so faithful, and He restores ten fold. While nothing can really replace my grandma, He has given me so many older women, dozens of them, just an avalanche of grandmas and big sisters. Grandmas who heal and love, who nurture and nourish, fiesty ones and calm ones, all sharing their wisdom and learned experience. What an amazing gift that has been.
This is not just coming from me, but ancient commentaries on the Bible speak of how, wisdom much like folly, is female. Mothers were looked upon with great veneration in the East. The mothers of kings especially were treated with marked respect, receiving the title of “queen-mother.” This seems to be the reason why the mothers of Jewish kings are so constantly mentioned. So much wisdom in Proverbs is based on, “The words of king Lemuel, the prophecy that his mother taught him.“
Did you know Epheshians 6 tells us, “Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with a promise;) That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.” God-promises are powerful, they speak the truth, they can be counted on, they should bee marked and noted. They are important.
I could go on and on but I’ve been around the block enough to know that facts don’t change perceptions, that presenting the truth doesn’t necessarily heal all those deceptions. The truth has to be received, welcomed, entertained. Just saying, the enemy sure knew what he was doing when he taught the culture to revile older women because those you revile won’t be heard.
“Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction, and do not forsake the teaching of your mother for they are a garland of grace on your head, and a pendant around your neck.”