Oh man, I just read the most ridiculous sob sister story, ever. Guy’s name is “Richard,” but still a sob sister story, all things being equal these days. Totally gag worthy, I’m telling you. Dripping with teh toxic. Icky- poo.
Should you wish to indulge in a mud bath of your own, here is the link to, “To my family who chose Trump over me: Was it worth it?“
Heck yeah! It has been so worth it. Best thing I ever did for myself, mentally, spiritually, even physically. I used to have concerns about all the divisions happening. I used to be hurt when somebody would reject me. I lost friends. It was often sad and heartbreaking. I grieved a lot of relationships.
Family is everything right? Wrong!! What I’ve learned over the past four years is that I really know how to strike up the motherlode of all one sided relationships. That’s not breaking news to me, but the depth of that truth and it’s ugly impact on my life kind of took my breath away.
Four or five years later I’m still trying to sweep up the mess, clear all the debree away, repair the damage. I don’t feel bad about trashing the whole place, I regret not doing it earlier and more often.
It turns out that friends who insist you deny who you are and change what you believe, aren’t “friends” at all. Those aren’t your people. It turns out that when family constantly threatens you with abandonment and rejection if you don’t comply and conform, they are the abusive ones, they are the ones with the issues.
Yep, the orange guy in the White House has taught me that I matter, too. He has taught me that how I perceive reality is not necessarily crazy, it’s valid and reasonable. And he has taught me how to fight, but better than that, that I have the right to fight.
He’s not a messiah or idol or cult leader any of the other cruel accusations I’ve had to endure from ignorant people. He’s simply the guy who hit the switch and turned on the lights. He didn’t create what’s now scurried across the counters and under the fridge, he simply revealed it.
Richard concludes with, “Whatever you ultimately decide, please know this — I love you. After everything else he’s taken from us, he doesn’t get to claim my love for you. That’s forever.”
There is no “love,” Richard. There never was. You’ve just been engaged in a one sided game of solitaire, narcissisitic admiration of your own self in the mirror, projected onto the alleged “objects” of your affection.
I ain’t your “object” Richard. I ain’t “yours,” at all. I’ve tasted freedom and it is sweet indeed. So I’m going to go get me a restraining order and you can go get yourself some anti-depressants, and we’ll just let this little broken love story die a much needed death.
Heck yeah, it was worth it! Dumping all your dead weight, pathetic whining, and endless virtue signaling has been the best part of all!
He turned on the switch and the vermin went scurrying. So true. And with all the call for unity, I recognize that unity is when I play their game. And never the twain shall meet! “Everything on the table” doesn’t mean the same to me as it does to some. I’ll not loot, burn, nor lie.
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You tell ’em, Oneta. There are millions of angry people right now like me (and probably you) and yet we have engaged in zero rioting, set fire to no buildings. We are not all the same, all things are not equal.
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Richard should be addressed by his common nick name
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LOL! Probably, but we are wonderfully and fearfully made, so I don’t want to disparage our design.
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Perhaps, like Paul, it was hard for him to kick against the pricks . . .
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Amen.
The Bible talks a lot about separation from those who don’t believe like you.
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Yep! We do need a little bit of separation from things that are exceedingly dark and wrong headed.
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Ephesians 5:11
“And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them.”
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“It turns out that friends who insist you deny who you are and change what you believe, aren’t “friends” at all. Those aren’t your people. It turns out that when family constantly threatens you with abandonment and rejection if you don’t comply and conform, they are the abusive ones, they are the ones with the issues.”
So good!
And…
“I ain’t your “object” Richard. I ain’t “yours,” at all. I’ve tasted freedom and it is sweet indeed. So I’m going to go get me a restraining order and you can go get yourself some anti-depressants, and we’ll just let this little broken love story die a much needed death.”
Lololololllll!!!
Another masterpiece!, IB!
Best,
— x
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Ha! Thanks. 🙂
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Hehe.. yeah, sorta what I thought you’d say. 🙂 No argument or debates from me. Pretty much the country is way passed all that now. In fact I blew away my own blog a couple months ago because everything that was to be said had been said for the last four years. Whether Trump would win or not… we are at a reckoning as a nation given all the events at play… and with 71 million supporters he’s not vanishing anytime soon.. unless his time on the planet expires from age. I have to admit though, it amazes me that some of his supporters are inspired enough by his behavior to want to adopt elements of it for personal change, in spite of the wide ranging professional analysis of his behavioral dysfunctions. But.. that’s the diversity of humanity. If he can calibrate your moral compass then go for it.
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Hmm, “calibrate your moral compass?” Kind of interesting, I’ve been having this same conversation with some evangelicals, some never-Trumpers, who are morally offended by the man’s alleged character and fear for my eternal soul. In the course of those conversations I’ve come to realize where the divide really is. They seem to believe that a human leader is what “calibrates our morality,” whereas I’m not looking to human authority AT ALL. In fact, Nero could be running things (and in this state he might as well be,) but that really does not change my moral compass. There’s kind of an interesting division going on among the authoritarians both left and right, and the non-authoritarians. Needless to say, I’m on team keep your silly authoritarianism far away from me. 🙂
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I suppose, then, we would have to define the “who” is asserting their authoritarianism…. and maybe even defining “authoritarianism” itself as I suspect we’d get a few different applications. I tend to prefer to think that for one to be assumed to be an authoritarian means someone has deferred (Surrendered? Perhaps.) to their prescription of authority. One might think being “authoritarian” is a character description in an individual, or some sort of mantra if assigned to an entity. To “surrender” suggests there is some conflict to overcome and you gave up. I “defer” to some authoritarianism for one, or more, of three reasons… 1. it helps to establish an order in my life, 2. I don’t care, 3. I can’t do it all myself (itself deferring to my propensity in management to delegate to those most apt to get the job done). My ego would cry out that I never surrender… but reality would dictate that sometimes a “strategic retreat” can be a setup for other opportunity.
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No, I don’t think it really matters who is exerting their authoritarianism, it’s the mindset behind it that proclaims people are small, idiotic children who must be governed. I yield at intersections and wash my hands because those are sensible things to do, not because I’m concerned about fines, penalties, or winding up on some hit list somewhere. You could be left, right, or even just benevolent and sensible, but that doesn’t change the fact that banning Thanksgiving and telling people what kind of serving dishes are covid compliant are still authoritarian acts. This is a country governed by the people, for the people, and of the people.
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…through our elected officials and according to the Constitution established in 1789. Perhaps “authoritarianism” is relative.
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Rather startling what this South Dakota nurse revealed…. give it a view when you have a few.
https://www.cnn.com/videos/us/2020/11/16/south-dakota-nurse-intv-newday-vpx.cnn
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A bit funny, we were just talking about her! So here’s the deal Doug, anybody on a vent with plunging oxygen levels is not going to be talking at all. They are certainly not going to be talking to their nurse about how bitter they are about not submitting to their public health officials and how their dying wish is to now go repent on CNN.
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Yep.. gotta be fake news.
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No. It’s simply attention seeking from a lonely woman with a Twitter feed full of hatred towards President Trump and Governor Noem.
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There’s no fooling you!
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I saw that headline and never bothered to click on it and read the article. From what you’ve said in response, I gather it was just as I expected. And I wholeheartedly agree with you. J.
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LOL! You are wise to avoid the click bait. Sometimes I like to tell people, I read it so you wouldn’t have to. 🙂
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I am astounded at how people swallow how they’re supposed to feel about anything let alone a lowly human. I like what Anthony de Mello says, “How could I possibly be offended if I refuse to take offense”
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Amen, Jeff. Something really cool about letting go of some pride, it’s virtually impossible to be offended! I feel bad for people who are offended all the time. It’s a lot more fun to stay humble, keep your sense of humor, and not take things personally.
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I read about half of the article until I realized that he was basically saying that HE (Richard) couldn’t be held responsible for any of his part in the online conversations. It was all Trump’s fault, once again. And there’s the narrative from the left. Maybe his relatives were just tired of the hate from him. I know I have blocked or “unfriended” people just because the only time they ever commented on my posts was when it was something political. They didn’t wish me a happy birthday, or care about any other part of my or my family’s lives until I posted something in support of “other other side” (cue the ominous music please). Then they were all about “correcting” the naive and idiotic conservative. And you know what? Life is much more peaceful without those people. I’m called to love my neighbor, but I can also have healthy boundaries too. Maybe is Richard genuinely reached out to his relative WITHOUT mentioning his hate for Trump, then they’d be open to talking to him. Sounds like more was going on than a mere political disagreement. But what do I know…I’m just one of those ignorant conservatives. My opinion doesn’t count.
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Ha! You make a really good point about loving your neighbor while having healthy boundaries at the same time. Amen to that! I can totally pray for people….from a healthy distance.
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I have to admit, I’m a bit baffled at all the hate toward President Trump. I was one who did not vote for him in 2016, said he was a bully, and believed his promises were for political posturing. I was wrong. He kept his promises. He still is brash and often unkind in his characterization of others, but he also has done some really good things for America. So what do they hate? That he brought jobs back to America from China? That he appointed judges who are committed to the Constitution? That he exposed the media bias? OK, maybe that’s it. But honestly, all the division we see did not come from President Trump. It’s more from the people who made war on the police.
Becky
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Back when I was a mere beardless youth, a wise older man used to say that while you can often tell a man’s character by his friends, you can tell it for certain by his enemies. I had reservations about Trump too in 2016, but when the only people who seem to hate him are the worst elements in society (and a large contingent of ignoramuses who follow the herd no matter what), that’s strong positive testimony for a guy.
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I am also baffled, LuElla. It is as if he has a supernatural power to induce hateful panic and virtue-signaling condescension in Lib/Progressives. In fact, even the slightly Liberal masses can’t hate on Cheeto 45 enough. It mystifies me. If he was very saintly or spoke of God and Christ I could understand the satanic reaction . . . but the guy is just a blustering worldly businessman who actually gets things done and appears to love his country. Strange days.
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Great characterization of the President!
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oh my Lord…
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LOL! Bless his heart…
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Really!
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So worth it! So totally worth it.
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