Go read Mel, today! He’s got some great stuff up about, “Heart and Head Matters.” It begins, “If the goal is that we grow up into Christ (Eph.4:15), which it is, then we’re going to need to re-form our hearts as well as our heads.”
So, often lots of things hurt, like emotions, feelings, and old wounds. And lots of things are scary like, pretty much anything new. To grow and thrive requires a willingness to deal with some discomfort. The fastest way out of pain is often through it.
I think this is kind of our job, to “grow up into Christ” and to spread the good news to others. God is good. There is freedom to be found in Jesus. Also, peace, love and joy.