When you “hate the world” a really good trick to remember is, “I am IN the world but not OF the world.” This world is just one layer of our experience. It does not define us. It is not who we really are. Often “the world” is colored by our attitudes and perceptions, too, the meaning of the moment.
I try not to hate things, not even the world, because hatred just begins to rot my soul. When I do that, I’m not only suffering from the world, now I’m also suffering from my hatred of it. So much of our own misery is actually self inflicted. That’s not shaming news, that’s good news. If you’ve gone and created some of your own misery, then you can go and uncreate it, too.
Uncreate some of of the misery in your life. It is doable, there is hope.
Today is actually supposed to be World Mental Health Day. I found that somewhat funny on account of the fact that it is often “the world” that seems to cause so many of our mental health issues in the first place. The world that has given us so much trouble, now wants to raise awareness if all the distress it has caused??!
So this is an unpopular opinion, a politically incorrect thing to say, but none of us are victims of our own mental health. Don’t get me wrong here, there are chemical imbalances and misfirings in our brains that are quite real. But we are not victims of our own mental health anymore than we are “victims” of arthritis. Victimhood implies being completely powerless, persecuted, deliberately and intentionally targeted through no fault of our own.
That’s a really unhealthy mindset to have about anything. It causes offense, shame, hurt and feelings of persecution. To be a “victim” is to basically claim, why is the universe out to get me? Or perhaps, “God hates me.”
I’m actually a bit grieved today, slightly worried, by this trend in “the world” that tries to portray our mental health as an affliction and we ourselves as hapless victims. That’s dangerous and unhealthy. I actually learned that truth from some people who were genuinely mentally ill, truly afflicted by some organic brain issues. My mental health does not define me, I define my mental health. The world does not define me, I define me, and I am not OF this world.
My state is actually 49th, scoring nearly at the very bottom for how we respond to mental health issues. It isn’t pretty. One problem we have here is that we do not address the emotional and spiritual, we do not respond to people holistically, and we insist on perceiving mental health as a hapless affliction, a victimization, a persecution.
Bleeding hearts often have away of bleeding all over those they claim to care so, so much about, and in the end we always just create more collateral damage in the world. We score 49th in the country. People, we’re doing it all wrong.