There’s a bumper sticker I like that says, “don’t believe everything you think.” Makes me laugh. Think critically about your own critical thinking. I suppose that can seem a bit scary for some who cling rather tightly to their own alleged ability to reason, to perceive, to discern and make judgments.
So myself, I have to constantly fight the absolutes, the part of my brain that picks up on patterns and categorizes everything, usually in a fatalistic way. “All, never, everyone, always.” Those are actually deceptions, lies. We cannot know “everyone.” We do not control “always.” So, He’s never going to change, it’s always going to be this way, they are all like that.
Those assumptions actually stem from experience, from wisdom. Statistically speaking, 69.2% of the time, I’ve born witness to the fact that this cause will have this effect. The problem with that of course, is that we tend to embrace the bigger number as if it actually defined reality.
You see fatalism reflected in marriage a statistics a lot. The cultural narrative says, “half of all marriages end in divorce, so I’ve only got a 50-50 chance.” Except those numbers have never been true, it’s just a narrative, an urban legend. It also cannot differentiate between the people who have been married five times, versus someone who was married once, got divorced, and re-married for 45 years. That’s the problem with trying to apply math to people, people are a diverse, an ever-changing variable. In math a two is always going to be a “two”…..and then there’s George. George will not sit still long enough for us to properly plot him on or number line.
Language is so important and very revealing. “Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.” We have the power of life and death in our tongues. We can speak one or the other over ourselves and others. I wrestle with this a lot and have to speak life over things, replace the fatalistic language with the Lord’s life affirming words. He spoke us into existence. We too can speak things into existence, we can a shape the narrative.
The Lord is just full of surprises. I think He looks at our statistics, our casting of lots, our pre-conceived notions, and just eats them for breakfast like a bowl of rice crispies.
So, never say never. Always. Everyone. All.