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“Reason is itself a matter of faith. It is an act of faith to assert that our thoughts have any relation to reality at all.” -G K Chesterton

Such a charming quote. Indeed, we like to put entirely too much faith in our own ability to reason. “Don’t believe everything you think.” As the bible says quite often, and teaches us over and over again, lean not unto your own understanding.

Reason has become quite the idol for many. All in good humor here, but I have never declared myself to be reasonable. My husband actually taught me that on accident, in the heat of the moment. He bellowed out in a moment of frustration, “I never said I was trying to be reasonable!”  It’s a fond memory because it truly ministered to my soul. Up until that very moment I thought everyone had to be reasonable. It was just mandatory. Reason means you are right. Lack of reason means you are wrong.

That all fails to take into account the limits of human perception. We can reason ourselves into a great deal of trouble. We can rationalize the most appalling things. Logic can actually drop us on our head down a rabbit hole. Our thoughts can have no basis in realty at all.

In marriage it was a very liberating idea because it wiped away the idea of winning and loosing. Someone can be totally unreasonable, but we still take their needs into account because…..love. It’s not so much about being right or wrong as it is about validating and accommodating someone’s needs, in service to them.

It was also very liberating personally, permission to be unreasonable. Permission to be unreasonable has opened up my eyes to faith in new and exciting ways.

G K Chesterton also said,  “Women are the only realists; their whole object in life is to pit their realism against the extravagant, excessive, and occasionally drunken idealism of men.”

Ha! That one is often true, too.