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Now here’s an interesting article that’s right up my alley, “Dear Women’s Ministry, Stop Calling Me the B-Word” link here
The B word here is “beautiful.” I have some mixed feelings about this article and I think perhaps she does, too. There’s a hesitation in her writing, the way she clarifies, “Again, it’s not a bad message. But it’s theologically deficient….”
It’s not a bad message. So many women are truly beaten down by life, by expectations, by the entire beauty industry, that we actually do need to hear there’s another kind of beauty, beauty in Jesus Christ, and that a big part of who we are as women involves bringing some beauty into the world. We are beautiful. I don’t want to see that truth completely squashed because on the other side of the culture, women are being pressed to reject all femininity outright, as if there is actually something shameful about womanhood, our worth and value now being perceived as how well we can compete and perform in what has traditionally been perceived as more masculine roles. Down with princesses, down with stay at home moms, down with anything perceived as traditionally female, as soft.
But change that B word to “strong” or “brave,” or any of the other empty platitudes, the feel-good words we pretend we’re arming women with, and she’s onto something. Where’s the substance, where’s the meat, where’s the beef?
It’s a bit like going into battle unarmed, a slightly smaller, weaker version of a man, facing a relentless assault from the enemy for precisely that reason, and you’re going to feed me…..platitudes?
Hey girl, you’re sure are looking good down there, all flattened out like road kill….
What women really need is a spiritual AK-47, a sword of truth, a suit of armor, an arsenal of weaponry, and a hearty breakfast of pure meat. Our warfare, our battles may not always be physical, but they will be spiritual and they will be intense. The only way to win them is to know who you are and Whose you are.
Whose you are is of such vital importance. Go into battle and tell the enemy, “I’m strong, I’m brave, I’m beautiful,” and he will promptly steal all three and spit out the bones. But tell him Whose you are, tell him, you mess with me, you mess with my Father, and it’s a whole different ball game. Trust in the Lord with all you heart and do as the angel Michael did in Jude 9, the Lord rebuke you, and it’s a real game changer.
We stand in the shelter, in the shadow of His wings. In Jesus Christ alone….
I really like the way she ended this article,“When our eyes turn to His beauty instead of pandering to ours, insecurities die.” So does fear, confusion, anxiety, despair, and a whole host of other things that ail us.
Women tend to be socialised that their outer attractiveness is one of their most important values. Even the current emancipation wave does not releive this approach.
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I totally agree IB…and here I thought you were going to say Barbie 🙂
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Reblogged this on A Blog About Healing From PTSD and commented:
I LOVE this post, and the truly wonderful article that inspired it.
Here is my favorite paragraph from insanitybyte’s post:
“Whose you are is of such vital importance. Go into battle and tell the enemy, “I’m strong, I’m brave, I’m beautiful,” and he will promptly steal all three and spit out the bones. But tell him Whose you are, tell him, you mess with me, you mess with my Father, and it’s a whole different ball game. Trust in the Lord with all you heart and do as the angel Michael did in Jude 9, the Lord rebuke you, and it’s a real game changer.” — Yes!!
Here are more great words from the linked article, written by Phylicia Masonheimer:
“Women wonder if we’re enough. Looking at the titles of the books we read, I deduce we’re entangled with insecurity, fear, and identity crises. We’re in this constant state of “struggle” with very little victory, never really living as “conquerors in Christ” (Rom. 8:37). These are real spiritual issues, but you know what? I’ve yet to see one woman set free from insecurity by being told – however repetitively – that she is beautiful. It doesn’t work, and it’s not the answer.”
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Thanks for leading me to that fabulous article. Great read!
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That’s a message that bears repeating.
It is curious how Christians do that, make it about us.
Who goes to a movie to applaud the roadkill? Who sings the praises of the victim? Who turns the world upside down? I suppose it is a predator who enjoys dining on the flesh of sheep.
When we make it about how wonderful we are, we are so naive. I suppose it comes from pride and ignorance; it means we are not taking the Bible seriously. Most of us have yet study the Bible, it seems, but Ephesians 6:10-20 makes it abundantly clear we put on the Armor of God because we don’t have what it takes.
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Beautiful is not an insult. I think God is beautiful. The love Christ has for me is beautiful. My daughters smile is beautiful. The sunset is beautiful…I think it’s sad that women are insulted or conflicted as if you can’t be both…beautiful and strong…my horses are. Beautiful and passionate…like poetry. Beautiful and wise like the pages of my Bible. Why does everything have to be so black and white anymore.
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Awesome post!💜
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I pray this will be an encouragement to someone. Very nice.
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Thanks for promoting the article, this was a great blog post to read x
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Well said, IB. I agree, the tendency is toward overcompensating with addressing insecurity and abuse.
And as the author said to this so succinctly, “We need freedom, not compliments.”
Amen and amen!
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Amen! Brilliant and truthful as always. Thank you!
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