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Recently Franklin Graham wrote about pornography and mentioned an article by Pamela Anderson in which she warns men about the dangers of porn.

The Pamela Anderson article kind of ticked me off, actually. Pamela Anderson, who made a huge fortune as a playmate, later as a Baywatch Babe, finally declares, “We must educate ourselves and our children to understand that porn is for losers…..a boring, wasteful and dead-end outlet for people too lazy to reap the ample rewards of healthy sexuality.

Losers? Lazy? Well, I suppose we’re all losers at some point, and lazy, and wrong-headed, and prone to assorted lusts and failings, but it just really didn’t sit with me right. I think part of it is the hypocrisy. As I said, Pam has made a fortune off her sexuality in Hollywood and now that she’s fast approaching 50, suddenly all the little people who have spent years buying what she has been selling are bad and should be ashamed of themselves.

However, the porn culture itself is real enough and we’re all marinating in it, men, women, and children. Something I find tragic, children today grew up with the internet, they are more immersed in the porn culture than any other generation. They may not have been lurking at porn sites, but they’ve seen it, they’ve heard it, and it has impacted them. It’s not just the internet either, but television, programs like SVU special victims unit and Law and Order, crime dramas that have introduced young people to every sexual perversion and violent act under the sun.

Our sexuality has been totally commodified and is now used to sell products, to play off those biological bliss hits and to socially engineer our behavior. Pornography itself is sometimes the commodity, one that can become very addictive because it does slip in under the radar and hit us on a biological level. I don’t like to see people moralizing and shaming those who are enticed by the porn culture, because there are some elements of addiction there, of genuine victimization. We’re all responsible for our own behavior, but the power of social engineering, culture, and addiction, can be really strong.

Porn can be damaging to all of us, not quite becasue people are “too lazy to reap the ample rewards of healthy sexuality,”  but becasue people hardly even know what healthy sexuality is anymore. As I said, you can go on the internet or turn on the TV and learn about every possible expression of unhealthy sexuality ever invented, but healthy, beneficial, joyeous, sexuality as a gift and a blessing that is life affirming? Not so much.

The other issue is the way porn has now blurred the lines between sex and violence. One thing about addictions is they start small and tend to progress, so one needs an ever increasing dose just to get the same high. I could post photos of pin up girls and risque calanders and nobody today would even perceive them as “porn,” they would be seen as quaint, retro, the models passive and almost modest. Our need for an ever increasing high had lead us to active internet porn that now blurs the lines between sexuality and violence, and it is not just men who are impacted, 50 Shades of Gray was also a big best seller.

It’s all very sad to me. Unlike some others, I don’t perceive pornography itself as the “biggest threat facing our world today,” but I do see some real harm stemming from our inability to recognize and resist social engineering, to have an awareness of cause and effect, to identify when we are being led, manipulated, seduced, influenced by things that bypass our radar and simply hit us on a biological level. “Where the mind goes the man follows” or as it says in Proverbs 23:7, For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he…

So, don’t ever allow yourself to become a passive consumer of whatever the world is selling, but if you do find yourself lured in, don’t let shame keep you trapped there. You aint no “lazy loser,” you’re simply another one of us, a participant in a broken world.

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