I thought this series was rather interesting, by Brett and Kate McKay:
I don’t necessarily agree that “Christianity has a manhood problem” but I do encounter many men, especially on the internet, who tell me it does. So here are three articles that I think address these issues very well, from a variety of perspectives.
I’ll just address the last one, “the Feminization of Christianity,” because it covers one issue I’ve spoken of before, worship songs as “boyfriend music,” the way women often romance and fall madly in love with our Savior. I’m certainly not going to apologize for that or say it’s wrong. God is after all, the lover of our souls. However, men and women are very different, so of course women will turn to God seeking those aspects of Him that we ourselves desire the most, protection, provision, affection. For us He is a Father, Savior, Leader, Redeemer…Husband. I have often quipped while writing praises, “remember I am a girl.” I find those gender differences amusing and quite delightful, not problematic, but I often want to post a disclaimer. Men are unlikely to desire relationship, safety, feelings, with the same kind of feminine enthusiasm I have.
My daughters relate to their earthly Father differently than my son does too, not that the affection is any less, but it does manifest itself differently. He’s the same Father, he’s just perceived differently, depending on roles and relationships. So it seems quite logical that sons and daughters would relate to our heavenly Father with some gender variations, too.
As to some of the contemporary “boyfriend music,” well I’m not going to try to explain or defend that. Some of it is just awful, as in it embarrasses even me and I’m darn near impervious.
I think what lurks at the root of this discussion is the word “prioritize.” Are the more feminine aspects of faith being prioritized over the more masculine ones in the Western church? I don’t know, but I think it’s a good discussion to have.