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This social narrative that suggests all women are good and golden while all men are potentially evil, annoys the heck out of me. There are huge and disastrous social and cultural implications here, but those are all pretty boring.
The real problem is that these false stereotypes totally mess with my Fatal Attraction fantasies. I mean seriously, how can one possibly be a proper she-villain under these conditions? I have female arch-types people, villainous women to idolize and emulate. How can I ever be a proper stalker and prowl around in the rose bushes, if we’re going to constantly deny the potential evil nature of women?
This comes up constantly. Some poor woman will be all dressed up in her cat suit 
and heels, ready to go villainize the city, and some moron shows up to inform everybody that all that women are chronic victims of well, just about everything.
I got it, I really do, rape, domestic violence, street harassment, mansplaining, manspreading, micro-aggression, gendered language, employers refusing to provide birth control, the list of potential offenses is huge. Also, completely irrelevant. I’m trying desperately to cultivate a proper evil persona here. Talk about disempowering me.
Not to be impolite here, but there is a slight possibility that some of the evils that befall women may in fact not be caused exclusively by men or the patriarchy. I know! That’s crazy-talk, but once in a blue moon, women actually participate in our own problems. Heck, sometimes we even go out and deliberately cause some, which is the whole point of this post! How can we possibly be either sweet gentle spirits or villainous she devils if we’re going to be constantly pigeon holed into chronic victim status?
Today on the internet, I counted. 39 people completely shattered my hopes of ever becoming a super villain. Two informed me I’d been sexually abused, 3 said the very fact that I am a married means I am oppressed, 9 said I was victimized by the indoctrination of my faith, and one said, “stop cyber stalking me, I hate you!” God bless the last one, at least she sees my potential.
I partially jest, but in all truth, what the heck are we doing to ourselves? I’m all grown up, these messages can’t get into my brain and if they do I’ll promptly forget where I put them anyway, but young girls are hearing this garbage day in and day out. You are a victim, men hate you, you are oppressed, you are powerless, you have no control, you cannot be held accountable for your choices…..
See, there's this thing called biology... 
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… therefore, you can do some truly heinous things. No one will blame you.
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Mansplaining and manspreading. Had to look them up. Thanks for introducing me to a few new, funny words.
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Manslamming is a new thing too. So weird!
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LOL, I forgot about manslamming. That’s where you barrel down the side walk and try to run men out of your path? Seems like a rather desperate attempt to have some physical contact with men, any man, oh please, please random strangers on the street, play chicken with me…… 😉
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I truly fear for my daughter. What will it be by then? Walking men on leashes??
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When the manslammers barrel up I politely step off the sidewalk and remind the sweeties that, “Chivalry is not dead.”
I think for one split second, they feel like women again.
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Okay, so now I had to look up manslamming. Geez, what the hell is my gender up to?
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LOL, we have no idea. It’s a complete circus out there 😉
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Wow…until this post appeared I honestly had no.idea about the sheer depths of my evilness. I will just go eat worms now.
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Isn’t it amazing? In our society you’re either a victim or an oppressor, period. I like to think I’m neither, but maybe that’s because I’m brainwashed by patriarchal evil men lol
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Only 9 said you are victim of indoctrination of your faith? You should be ashamed
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It was a slow day. I was slacking off 😉
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Great words on a touchy subject written with humour, nice job! I’ve felt for a long time that all this men shaming and victim hood glorifying is not at all empowering for women, especially young people who have not been exposed to much and are so impressionable. I like that humour you’ve incorporated in your piece but feel the message is quite important. 😉
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“and if they do I’ll promptly forget where I put them anyway,”
Nothing like aging as an immunity to BS…
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“you are a victim, men hate you, you are oppressed, you are powerless, you have no control, you cannot be held accountable for your actions…”
Ha—that’s what feminists teach women to believe. Then the Gamers teach men that these are all feminist myths; but if men make it reality, that’s the essence of Game! LOL
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Ah sheesh, you’ve just described the gaming circle of hell. 😉
That’s it precisely, the gamers become the negative feminist perception of men, therefore justifying and validating the need for feminism, therefore creating more feminists, which than leads more men to seek game as a form of control, which then breeds more feminism…..
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You forgot to mention patriarchy and misogyny in every sentence. Because apparently all women in Western world are being oppressed en masse and there is huge misogyny going on. I just don’t understand how can there be this “misogyny” if people are friends with women, they marry them because women want it in most cases and live happily together, they share lives, experiences and emotions with them like with any other human being. Last time I looked into the dictionary, misogyny meant a systematic hatred of women. How exactly can you do that if you’re a true friend with them? Or a boyfriend and husband? You can’t hate someone that you love and adore. You either love them or hate them. And when you actually have to use word “hate” to describe a relationship with another person, something has gone horribly wrong for those two individuals. Not something you can exactly apply to all women unless you’re a psychopath. And I have great doubts that all men are psychopaths. If that’s the case, then we’re all psychopaths, women included.
The way I’m seeing it now, women are downing themselves by constantly screaming at young girls that world is oppressing them. That men are oppressing them. And even if these young girls don’t really feel oppressed or being hated by the men, these SJW’s are so persistent in doing it, they feel oppressed just because of it. It’s actual brainwashing. They say they are “empowering women”, but what they are doing is they are turning them into crybabies who constantly whine on the internet how unjust the world is instead of going out there and doing something to change that. Like for example, whining how women aren’t accepted into the gaming industry. Well, they won’t magically become accepted if you don’t even send application for the job there. That’s like hopping to win the lottery without buying the lottery ticket…
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It really is brainwashing and brainwashing is one of my pet peeves. Those SJW’s can be downright vicious about it. It’s actually bullying and pretty intense psychological abuse.
I pretty much reject misogyny as a real things in the world. I’m sure we can probably find one or two men who genuinely hate and fear women as an entire state of being, but for the most part it isn’t even possible. You simply do not pursue what you hate and fear unless you’re a serial killer or something.
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I think we a have a group of people I call “The Entitled Helpless”, who reside at their mommies and daddies, while sitting on the couch, passing judgement on people who actually work hard and have lives. There is where your victim mentality comes from, The Entitled Helpless” are trying to deflect it on to you, because its not their fault, its your fault, for everything!
((Off soap box))
NIBSIH.
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Good point. I sure see the “entitled helpless” lurking all over the place. Everything is somebody elses fault and the entire world needs to adapt and conform to their needs.
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haha love this 🙂
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You make an excellent point!
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You are bad-assed IB. Whew. All you’re missing are the two pearl handled six-guns slung off your hips and you would be the next Annie Oakley. Schew. Definitely a power to be reckoned with.
ha! I know what you mean- you are a riddle wrapped in a mystery inside an enigma. My Mum is an ardent feminist and i’ve always had a problem with her narrative. On one hand she portrays women as downtrodden vistims and on the other hand she promotes power to women, often to the exclusion of men. It always seemed a bit paradoxical to me, but I kept my mouth closed – a rare and uexpected strategic move by me – in an effort to promote peace amongst the genders. I have always suspected that women have considerably more power than is advertized – and that they know it but are keeping their cards close to their chests.They may very well be plotting the take over of the world while men are feeling sorry for them. (Pinkette and the Brain)
I read an interesting post over at Willowdot21 recently https://willowdot21.wordpress.com/2015/01/21/just-jot-it-january-elastic-heart/#comments that featured a video by Sia. Willow asked her readers if they thought it depicted sex. To me it seemed to empower women and i had no issue with it but many disagreed and saw only sex (one dancer is 12 years old). This strikes me as the epitome of your argument IB – the same video and some people see sex and others see empowerment. I thought the video was excellent – that was not the concensus. What do you think?
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I saw that Paul. That is a controversial video to say the least. It is so entwined with sexual politics, that it would require an entire thesis to take it apart. I think there’s some real deceptions woven in there, however. No matter how empowered a 12 yr feels or appears, she isn’t. That’s a complete illusion. We have really brought sex into the material realm, so now it is all about power and who has it.
For girls this is actually really harmful because now our worth, value, and our power, comes exclusively from our sexuality. We become flat, two dimensional people with one source of control only. That then becomes a weapon we must wield against the world. What you wind up with is a lot of attempts to gain some external control over an internal problem. Look at women like Whitney Houston, Myley Cyrus, Lena Dunham, they’ve either over dosed on drugs or they’re teetering on the edge of emotional collapse. The we have all these bizarre rape/consent laws on college campuses and false allegations in Rolling Stone magazine and a whole lot of sexually confused women stumbling about.
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This is my first time watching this video and I hadn’t heard much about it, other than it was controversial. I will say, the dancing was gorgeous and this was very artistically done. What struck me was the question of whether or not this was about sex. I just love (not!) how people think that our sexuality can be separated from other parts of our being. We were created as sexual beings inside our mothers’ wombs and our sexuality develops over time, and does so unevenly. Puberty provides a jolt of hormones and dramatic body changes, but it is not the beginning. The sexuality of the girl and the grown man (I love this particular actor–I didn’t know he could dance as well!) are both apparent in this video. I do not believe that the video was about the sex act itself, but what it displays about our culture and our sexual dynamics is breathtakingly accurate and shocking. Let us not deny that girls even at 12 are sexual beings, but unfortunately once a girl starts developing overtly sexual characteristics (and now even the years leading up to this!) there is a switch in how we see her. She is encouraged to use her sexuality in an effort to become “empowered.” It is femininity’s attempt to protect herself from a real adversary. And there really *is* one. It is not patriarchy, but the devil himself. He hates femininity and beauty and will do all he can to destroy her. Of course evil has used men, and still does, to harm women. But the adversary is not patriarchy, it is evil itself. Of course women have just the same capacity for evil and often use their very powerful sexuality to acheive it. Back to the video… We are telling girls at younger and younger ages to use their sexuality for empowerment. I expressed this concern in a conversation to my father-in-law about how I’m worried about all the things my daughter will have to face as a preteen. He said surely I don’t have to worry about this *yet* as my daughter is only 8. What he doesn’t get is that this sexual exploitation in the form of “empowerment” happens btwn ages 10-12 when a decade or two ago you’d see more at 15 or 16. To not see that is to be naive. We must protect our daughters and teach them not be ashamed about their sexuality, of course, but also to realize that using their sexuality the way we have is not only evil, but is the very opposite of “empowering.” I see the video making the man to represent male sexuality=patriarchy. The girl is a victim, but she is ferocious. She rightly has this power and in the end she escapes. This is all good, but I can’t help feeling sorry for the man. He cannot take all the blame, and is there no escape for him? He deserves freedom as well! Hopefully my ramble makes sense as I am typing this from my phone. Great blog post and great discussion! I ❤️your sense of humor!
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Oh, great comment! Amen to it all.
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Hmmm, that’s interesting IB. When I saw the video i saw an interpretive dance piece – and a well done one. A healthy view of sexuality needs to be a part of the conversation around power and fulfillment and growth. As your blog title says: “See, there’s this thing called biology…”. I once read an intervew of prominent Canadian female writer (I can’t rememeber the name – sorry) and she was asked about sexuality and her experience with it around the natural order. She told a story that has stuck with me over the years. She attended Canada’s centennial celebrations in Montreal in 1967 – as I did. We were both 8 years old at the time. It was the biggest party Canada has ever had combined with a world exposition. She described getting separated from her family and talking to one of the RCMP security detail. They took her back to their security office and paged her parents. Once her parents had been located and were on their way to pick her up, she was sitting on the knees of one of the policemen while they kept her amused with stories. She described feeling safe and cared for within the context of all those uniformed men sworn to protect her as she was fairly immersed in their male presence – their scent and size and voices and strength. She traced her sexuality back to those feelings, which were obviously not of a direct sexual nature at 8 years old. The feelings were instead a sense of value and power as a female human; an empowered sense of self-worth.
And when i watched Sia’s video that was what i saw IB – not any act of sexuality but rather a healthy sense of power that is an integral part of a healthy human development.
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Oh, I am all about a healthy view of sexuality and removing misplaced shame. Absolutely, Paul! Hey, even the bible is love story that starts out with two naked people in a garden 😉
I think you’ve really beautifully captured the development of some healthy sexuality in young girls and what that looks like. There is nothing creepy about that at all, it is healthy and natural.
“The feelings were instead a sense of value and power as a female human; an empowered sense of self-worth.”
I think part of the problem here is that you’re seeing sexuality through male eyes. Women really don’t perceive sex in quite the same way. What you perceive as “value and power as a female human,” would perhaps be true for a male human, but not so much for a female one. We’re simply different. Biologically speaking, sex carries far more weight for women then it does for men and that hits us on an emotional and psychological level, too. Women already have tremendous sexual power, we don’t necessarily seek more, in fact, too much more tends to distress us. Women have other sources of power that need to be developed and explored too, and when all the focus is on our sexuality, those other things get suppressed and than we are simply not happy and balanced human beings.
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Well said! ❤️
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Excellent comment IB. Obviously a perspective that I don’t come by easily. You’ve given me food for thought. Thank you.
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Times sure have changed.
Forty years ago the object of feminism was that women be raised to be manly.
Just ask my sisters.
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Well put!! Touchy but relevant topic to post about. Really loved it.
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I hear the MRAs are happy to embrace the evil nature of women. They have something called “financial rape” that housewives do to the men they marry.
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LOL, I know, right? What’s with that?? Where is this easy street they speak of? Apparently I am a defective unit because my alleged hypergamy went and failed me and I fell in love…. 😉
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I once met and MRA who told me that I shouldn’t exist. It kinda makes me wonder how many of them actually interact with women.
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I know! I ticked off a couple of them too, with my mere existence. Ooops, my bad 😉
There are some very smart MRA’s however, some that are rather nice and seem to have interacted with some real life women, so they aren’t all bad, but some of them, sheesh!
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You go, girl!
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