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This picture made me laugh. I do love lions. In our perfectly balanced equalitarian natural world, male lions tend to sleep about 20 hours a day while female lions hunt. For those who believe lions should be removed from the animal kingdom entirely due to their lack of political correctness, there’s always the Bonobos. Feminists and some evolutionary psychologists are rather fond of the Bonobos because they perceive them to belong to a female dominated matriarchy. Coincidentally, they also happen to be on the endangered species list.Β I should note here that Bonobos are also resistant to the simian immunodeficiency virus, which is really only relevant in discussions involving people having evolved from monkeys.
So are women scary? Yes, I suspect we are, we can be anyway. Something that seems to be a bit different however, women rarely realize we’re scary. Seriously, for all the talk of strong, empowered women, biology still intrudes and we grow up with an awareness that we are smaller, weaker, and not terribly threatening. We rarely engage in games of bluster and bravado, so we seldom gain any recognition of our own power. I have observed women rushing a small animal, “oh, look at that precious little thing,” with absolutely no awareness of how intimidating we must appear. The poor thing is cowering in fear and horror and we just think it needs us to comfort it. “Oh, it’s scared!” Well gee, I wonder why.
I remember when the kids were young, a few times the sisters would try to terrorize their brother. Frequently they would say, “he’s not scared of us, he’s a boy!” Well, at that time he was a boy that weighed about 60 pounds and was barely 3 feet tall. Also, you girls are five-ten years older. Like hello! You can physically intimidate somebody smaller than you, regardless of gender. No, he’s not squealing because he enjoys it. You are actually scaring him.
Boys grow up with a much better awareness of their own intimidation factor. Not all of course, there’s always a few that evolution seems to have left behind and natural selection has abandoned, but for the most part, men are much more aware of themselves physically than women are. Being perceived as scary can come in handy, so let’s not knock that entirely, it’s just that it’s really rather awful to have people frightened of you for no reason. People are very social creatures, so having the villagers flee in terror is not quite the response most of us are going for.
We are living in a culture right now that seems to be working very hard to portray all men as bad, evil, scary, potentially dangerous, rapists, pedophiles. Be afraid, be very afraid and make sure you are armed with all your rape prevention tips, your pepper spray, and lots and lots of laws to regulate male behavior so you always have back up. That just strikes me as incredibly sad. No one really wants to be perceived as scary when they aren’t trying to be scary.
Kind of ironic, one thing women really don’t like, is men being afraid of us. In fact, one thing that often attracts us to men, is evidence that they do not fear us. If you observe women’s behavior, we tend do everything we can to appear as non threatening as possible. That really is what all those trappings of femininity are often about, presenting ourselves as physically non intimidating.
That attraction to men who don’t fear us is also a rather amazing built in fail safe. Men who are scared, insecure, feeling threatened, are actually potentially dangerous to women and we recognize this on some level, because generally those are the men we do not feel as attracted to. So, if she thinks you’re scared, insecure, or that she has the power to intimidate you, you could be the nicest guy in the world, but she’s unlikely to read it that way.
Biology is really a remarkable thing. This push to make women more like men, more dominant, more intimidating, more powerful, has consequences. I’m all for women having rights, safety, opportunity, but when we start to stake claims to ALL the power, as we are seeing in the western world, it throws the whole equation out of whack.Β Men wind up afraid of us and women wind up unhappy.
Underdaddy said:
So my post for the day is women drivers and how biology affects that one. Spoiler – Women are still scary
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insanitybytes22 said:
LOL, that really was a funny post. Good luck with all the women drivers π
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irtfyblog said:
I liked what you said here; “That attraction to men who donβt fear us is also a rather amazing built in fail safe. Men who are scared, insecure, feeling threatened, are actually potentially dangerous to women and we recognize this on some level, because generally those are the men we do not feel as attracted to.”
It’s a well-known fact that men who are weak aren’t the men women want to be around. Women want to feel secure and confident and normally draw from their man the traits that he possesses. If he’s shy and scared, women don’t want to be around him because they don’t like the feeling of being scared all the time. They want to be safe and know that a man has their back in every situation. Most men don’t realize this or even care.
However, I wouldn’t say women are scarey, I think it’s that men are thinkers and want to “fix” things, but don’t understand women, can’t take them apart to see what makes the tick and therefore have a tendency to be more shy around what they can’t figure out or get their hands on.
Of course, society has really screwed men up as well by making them think women are far superior to them in every way and that every women is a yelling, screaming, mean-spirited so-and-so. And when women start to act that way in real life, men will shy away from them and appear intimidated or scared. it’s all a very vicious cycle that will only end with Christ returns. π
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insanitybytes22 said:
Great comment. I don’t think women are scary and I suspect most men don’t either, not truly scary. Men are designed to be risk takers for a reason π
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Malcolm Greenhill said:
Well said, it’s as if we want to put our intelligence at the center of the universe and control and manipulate everything, including our own biology (and the gender roles of which it is a part). But nature is not so easily tamed, so, as you suggest, “they that sow the wind, shall reap the whirlwind”.
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Paul said:
Interesting IB.
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Wally Fry said:
IB….sometimes your posts make me think so hard I just can’t even say anything intelligent. So…gonna leave it with well done and thanks for activating my brain first thing in the morning.
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Opinionated Man said:
Reblogged this on HarsH ReaLiTy and commented:
Yes women are scary. And crazy. -OM
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insanitybytes22 said:
Crazy? Well, insanitybytes π
LOL, thank you for the reblog.
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Bioman said:
Yup.
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clockworkjosh said:
A good read!
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Meredith said:
I have a sneaking suspicion men try to bully and intimidate what they perceive a smart, strong woman.
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insanitybytes22 said:
Perhaps some do, but often those kind of men are so broken themselves, I’m not sure it has anything to do with the women they find themselves with.
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walterliisberg said:
and women never belittle men…. can we stop this ALL men do this ALL women do that because we are so varied that those who make those assumptions without evidence are making themselves look retarded. There are generalizations, but Meredith bullying happens by ALL genders due to jealousy, so get lost with your bigoted opinions
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Meredith said:
Of course you’re correct. It is never fair to condemn a group up because a few are substandard. I just happened to be a naive
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Meredith said:
Oops hit send too soon, trying to correct. Any way, I happened to be a naive woman who was subjected to verbal/mental abuse.
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insanitybytes22 said:
I’m sorry for what you experienced. Nobody deserves that, no matter how “naive” they are at the time.
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Eric said:
Meredith:
The Churchian Gamers actually encourage men to behave like that and teach women that they deserve such abuse. But like IB pointed out, such males are broken themselves and you don’t have to read very far into their writings to discover that they are very weak men ‘scared, insecure, feeling threatened, and potentially dangerous to women.’ As proof of this, witness all their peacocking and continually posturing as ‘manly Alpha leaders’—all a cover for their own weaknesses.
A lot of women mistakenly pursue abusive and thuggish men for the same reason: they mistake the outward displays for genuine masculinity when in reality it’s just a pose. If you look at the older generations of action films, you see the heroes were men who were mostly quiet and confident: that’s what real masculine strength looks like. It speaks through actions and not words.
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marilynmunrow said:
Hehehehehehhe i can be scary when i want to be scary, but well, i know how to handle my man, so yes i think he is scared to death of me, but he loves me all the same.
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walterliisberg said:
Here, here, well put
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xPraetorius said:
Are women scary?
Yes.
In the really important sense.
We men recognize that, though we can be physically intimidating, we’re on a level playing field when it comes to matters of the mind and heart.
We realize further that because of the vast size differential, women have been honing the ability to trounce our sorry backsides in the realm of the heart and mind for millennia.
So, despite the fact that the “playing field” is level, we know, in an inchoate sense, that we’re always the underdog on that field. We step onto the field scared.
It’s only when we become sufficiently secure in ourselves as men, and as persons, that we stop being scared.
That does not mean, in any way, that we diminish the importance of women’s approval in our lives, just that we are willing not to be dominated or intimidated, or emasculated, or cowed by it… and are ready to interact, as men-in-full, with a woman-in-full.
Some of us wait, sadly, ’til much later in life.
Great, great column, IB… as usual. π
Best,
— x
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insanitybytes22 said:
“We realize further that because of the vast size differential, women have been honing the ability to trounce our sorry backsides in the realm of the heart and mind for millennia.”
Yes, I think that is rather true. That’s also why we tend to see more passive/aggressive behavior in women. Women have simply had to learn alternative skills to outright intimidation.
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Eric said:
IB2:
The Churchian Gamers talk a lot about ‘female hypergamy’ but I tend to suspect that men are more inclined to hypergamy. The reason men find women ‘scary’ though in a different sense, is because men’s natural inclination is to mate with someone he feels is better than he deserves. The Gamers reverse that idea, but understanding it is how women can capture and keep a good man.
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insanitybytes22 said:
Interesting Eric. Hypergamy in women makes absolutely no sense from a biological perspective. I’ll have to give it some thought and do some more research.
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totsymae1011 said:
Men are taught their strengths and yes, they are well aware. When women come into realization of theirs, they over-use it and become kinda evil. Will often reap their newly discovered strength upon other women folk and when they can’t match or conquer males who they feel is their equal, lo and behold, they’re victims of the male-dominated system that represses them. We are something else.
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insanitybytes22 said:
“…they over-use it and become kinda evil…”
That is really good point, Totsy. Believe it or not, I would rather tangle with a man because most of them do have limits, boundaries they won’t cross. Women often do not know where to stop. No, you cannot annihilate the object of your offense and wipe it off the face of the planet.
If you’ve ever gotten into a conflict with women, you pick up on this difference rather quickly. Not everyone of course, falls into these stereotypes, but women really have a tendency to over use their power.
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totsymae1011 said:
Yes, there’s a huge difference. And men will get over it a lot quicker. It was only 5 years ago, when working with different type of women folk, that I began to observe us differently. I couldn’t understand why problems kept arising, ’cause I never analyzed our natures in the way you do here. And then it hit me. It was disappointing and often I felt like the guy, scratching my head, wondering why we couldn’t love past last week. Alas, I currently find myself working with a similar group, a little smarter, therefore, a little slicker. The struggle is real.
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totsymae1011 said:
typo– move past
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ColorStorm said:
Did somebody say lions?
Then there is……..in the words of the infamous Paul Harvey………….the rrrrrest of the story. π
Can’t imagine this fella being afraid of anything.
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rixlibris said:
Okay, I am now officially strange. My first reaction involved a peach seed and the great fortune of having the bottom of the photo cropped out.
Loved the post, BTW and am reblogging it.
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Monster Papa said:
I (think I) agree with the thrust of the piece, but some overlapping/conflicting generalizations are a bit confusing. While women in general are smaller, weaker, etc. physically than men in general, it seems to me that this is the basis of what makes them scary to men. It hasn’t been my observation that women try to ‘appear as non-threatening as possible’- in fact, a great many seem to have what would be called ‘little man syndrome’ in males- compensating behavior that is overly aggressive. I think of it as ‘yappy dog syndrome’, because it reminds me of a chihuahua who barks, growls and snaps at a great dane while the dane, with a concerned look on their face, stands there with their nose just out of reach. (As a dane owner, I observe this frequently, and it is not gender-specific behavior). Great danes generally don’t take this aggression at face value, but men are in the quandary of being that jerk that doesn’t take women seriously, or, on the other hand, taking it seriously and either being that jerk that is obnoxiously aggressive in response or that wimp that is afraid of women. Over the years I have found the great dane response to be the best, even though it is open to almost any interpretation.
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insanitybytes22 said:
I think I tend to agree with you. That “little man syndrome” though, I don’t think women are compensating for anything, I think many of us are genuinely clueless. As I tried to say in this post, most women really don’t grow up with much awareness of our own power.
I have seen women attack men much larger than them and many of us are just prone to laugh, simply because it is so irrational. This is not a fair fight, it’s an act devoid of all common sense. Try later explaining that that guy actually LET you attack him, that it was his honor that protected you, not your awesome ninja skills, and some women genuinely seem rather baffled by this.
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Monster Papa said:
Yes, I see what you’re saying. I think that many of the biological differences have become obsolete in terms of day-to-day survival, but there are deeper, more subtle differences that don’t care. This creates a lot of confusion.
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Evie said:
I was timid, taken advantage of for it, and learned to roar. You bet I’m scary now, thanks to what men taught me, which was that you are either in their face when they treat you badly, or they are trampling your self respect. In short, men made me scary.
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Lolsy's Library said:
Me too! My last two relationships my partners stood back and let their friends intimidated and bully me and I got hit by one of my boyfriends friends. I still don’t know why they were like that either because I did actually ask what their problem was with me, they told everyone else, but not me,lol. There’s some great saying that goes along the lines of “You keep calling me crazy, but you forget to mention what an a&@hole you were”lol. I’m not saying all guys do that either, because I have had boyfriends and friends stand up for me.
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Karen Van Benschoten said:
I think that as I started moving through my early adulthood, I started out being scary, as a means of protection from men, as I had been so abused by men, starting with my own father. It has taken many years, and many experiences to try and change that outlook on life. However, I fear I have failed miserably.
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insanitybytes22 said:
Perfect π
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jenwintersne said:
It is because a single woman outnumbers a room full of men.
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rixlibris said:
Reblogged this on rixlibris.
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insanitybytes22 said:
Thank you so much for the reblog π
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michaelnjohns said:
Great post. Unless we’re in love, and truly love, though, there ought to be a certain element of fear. both ways. First John 4:18 is the first clue. Unless your love is perfect, there will be fear. And I don’t know anyone who is perfect. Except perhaps my wife, of whom I am just the slightest bit terrified (myself being imperfect).
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findingfaithdivine said:
Reblogged this on Candid Cupcakes.
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insanitybytes22 said:
Thank you for the reblog, much appreciated π
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One Gentleman said:
This push to make women more like men, more dominant, more intimidating, more powerful, has consequences.”
If I said this, I would be a sexist and of course a misogynist. So, what does it make you, brainwashed? I am having a difficult time with this quote, well, difficulty in understanding why it has become so popular today.
A school in the US (I cannot recall the state), wants to call boys and girls purple penguins in school, because they think terms associated with the male/female gender are wrong. Yes, they think it is better to use “gender inclusive” terms. After a month, the initial voices from parents were finally heard, and this fiasco came to an end.
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insanitybytes22 said:
LOL! Yes I heard about that. To avoid the issue of gender, we have declared you all the be penguins. Oh, well than, problem solved π
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ME said:
Yes, very scary. Women are like small scorpions, they look small and harmless, and yet they have stronger poison than the bigger and rougher men. To me, that is scary. . . . I am an aspiring writer. As my attempt to better myself I created a blog (where I committed myself in to writing a novel and 30 poems within the next 30 days). Please pop-by. Please do critic my work as much as you can. I Am a Pregnant Man @ http://www.iampregnantman.wordpress.com
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thetruthisstrangerthanfiction said:
(“covert comment” to IB!… π let me know if I’m going overboard here today, will you? Not sure if I just had too much coffee today or what, but I appreciate your “likes” though. Wasn’t expecting to get into so many “food fights” here, but it sort of just happened.. Your blog rules, for so many reasons….)
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insanitybytes22 said:
Nothing wrong with a food fight now and then. I like a good conversation. π
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Wally Fry said:
Truth…you did good. Actually I owe ya. You kept our friend off of my blog for at least a couple of minutes LOL…way to cover, Brother.
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