Naked Artichokes did a post called “What Feminism Means to Me,” objecting to a Buzzfeed article called, “15 Women Say Why They Don’t Need Feminism.”
I used to be a pretty good feminist, but I rejected it all when I started to see how harmful feminism has been for women. We think we’re creating equality, better lives for women, but we’re a bit myopic, unable to see the bigger picture. We seek to dismantle patriarchy as if patriarchy were the root of all evil and we fail to respect it as an institution that has contributed greatly to the kind of society we now live in. Equality really is a fool’s errand, especially when equality would actually be a step down for women. We are biologically valuable to the equation, superior even, and equality seeks to deny that, to actually reduce our standing in the equation. Feminism fails on many levels, but one is it’s inherent inability to empathize with men. One of the foundational concepts of feminism is that men are oppressors, hogging all the resources, so if we just lower men’s status in the world, regulate and control them, socially engineer a different version of men, women will reap all these benefits. The exact opposite is often true, strengthen the men and the quality of women’s lives will improve also.
One thing that stood out for me in the Buzzfeed article was how so many women did not embrace feminism because they did not want to perceive themselves as chronic victims. Oh, amen to that. Feminism has a way of robbing us of our autonomy, of teaching us to walk as perpetual victims. That is position of weakness, not strength, and it actually demeans who we are as women.
I love women and seek to improve the quality of our lives, but as much as I love women there is one other group that loves us even more, and that is men. There is a huge deception woven into feminism that seeks to deny that, but it is simple and irrefutable biology. Individual men may claim to hate us, some men’s evil actions may lead us to believe we are hated, but biology wins the game every time. Men as a species are tied to us in a kind of symbiosis that forces them to seek us out, to protect us, to strive to create a better world for us.
See, there's this thing called biology... 
Excellent points – feels so real. Thank you.
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Reblogged this on Christian Heritage News.
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Amen and amen! You hit the nail on the head once more! Love your posts and writing style. You’re a pleasure to read and often brighten my day. Thanks!
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Thank you for the kind words and thanks for the reblog.
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Great post, I totally agree.
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I am a feminist and I love men. Men are also harmed by the current status quo. “Men” aren’t the problem. Societal expectations are the problem. It’s all about choices and individuality to me.
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What happens when the choices that individuals make become harmful to themselves and the rest of society?
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It’s for each person to make his/her own decisions. There’s no way to police people into doing what you want them to. The consequences of all decisions are complicated and up for interpretation.
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So who gets to do the interpreting and what happens if somebody’s individual choice is infringing on anothers?
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Can you give me an example?
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Well, suppose you imagined yourself to be a dragon and you believed that your expression of your identity required you to blow fire all over my rose bushes?
As much as I love freedom and freewill, we can’t really live in a world where everyone has exclusive individual rights based only on their desire to make personal choices
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Perhaps an example from real life? Otherwise, I just assume this is an argument with no real teeth. Nice try though, dragon lady 😉
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Every action has a reaction. Humans usually desire to belong in a community, whether it is a book club, the cheerleading squad, or a political organization, we don’t want to be excluded. Now, if a member of one group of people acts viciously and disrespectfully towards you while making it clear that they belong to X-group, almost immediately you stigmatize that group of people by the actions of that one person.
Thus, no society can truly rely on solo individuality because it would be ignoring a crucial part of human nature. So, using the argument: “my actions only affect me” is completely false, misguided, and selfish.
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I never said that. Straw man argument.
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Well, actually you’re using the straw man fallacy by calling Lex’s argument a straw man argument. You originally stated “Societal expectations are the problem. It’s all about choices and individuality to me”. Lex was arguing that statement and I’ve got to agree with him. No society can be fully based on individuality nor can we fully get rid of expectations placed on us by society, we can only strive to change them but not eradicate them.
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I am sure that feminists today in the West don’t know what they really mean saying “I am a feminist”. In the Soviet Union men and women had equal salaries in all occupations and according constitution and laws women had equal rights with men.
Actually they had double burden (at work and at home). Life was miserable for women and men!
Feminism as a movement today in the West is not for equal rights. It is for getting more money and more political power and freedom to do everything a woman wants to do without moral limitations.
Why do we need feminists in America when heads of many corporations are women, when women have more money than men, when majority of professors are women and when many members of Congress are women?
Do feminists today fight for rights of women in other countries?
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Great points! From my perspective it seems like feminists today have long parted from the original idea of their movement that they’re doing more harm than good to society.
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No doubts about it! Only recently in two American universities they voted two insult two extraordinary black women. None of the outside feminist organizations condemned it!
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That’s sad
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Who were the women who were insulted? I am curious to know more about this.
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Thank you for continuing the conversation on your blog! I’ll just make one more response:
“Men as a species are tied to us in a kind of symbiosis that forces them to seek us out, to protect us, to strive to create a better world for us.” Claiming that women don’t need feminism because of biology is completely misguided. There is such a thing as institutionalized sexism in the sciences that have not only claimed that women are biologically weaker than men, but also have made racist claims against people of other descent due to histories of violence against other races.
Also claiming that biology forces men to “seek us out” and “protect us” absolutely ignores the issues of sexual violence, emotional violence and physical violence that millions of women have suffered at the hands of men for centuries. Not all men, but statistics show just how much more women suffer from sexual harassment, sexual violence and physical violence than men (just look at these stats on domestic violence http://www.ncadv.org/files/DomesticViolenceFactSheet(National).pdf).
Thinking like this reduces the agency of women, making women dependent on the acts of men to “save us” and maintains that men have power over women. Something that is completely wrong as men and women should be EQUALS.
Feminism does not make women victims. It strives to point out the ways in which we think of femininity and womanhood (and manhood for that matter) and to show how our understandings have been formulated over centuries by predominantly white males, giving women no ability to speak for themselves and represent themselves. I also wouldn’t exactly call Gloria Steinem or Audre Lorde victims.
I’d also say that the way in which you understand feminism is completely heteronormative and leaves out members of the LGBTQ community, which results in homophobia, inequality and violence.
All the best,
Naked Artichokes
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Thank you for your comment. I always appreciate a good discussion.
“….our understandings have been formulated over centuries by predominantly white males, giving women no ability to speak for themselves and represent themselves….”
Here’s my problem with this part. The Western world, designed, created and built by primarily white males, is one the best places on Earth for women, minorities, the disabled, and the LGBT communities to live. It is so good here, people often risk their lives trying to sneak in.
Here we are today, with the right to speak for ourselves, to represent ourselves, living in one of the most prosperous countries on the face of the Earth because of patriarchy, Christian values, and white males. Now of course women played a huge role as did blacks struggling against slavery, and Chinese and Irish laborers, and atheists, and all the myriad of people who poured their blood and tears into this country, but that does not erase the contribution of those predominantly white patriarchal males and the structure they created that grants us the freedom and agency to criticize even them.
I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but that doesn’t happen a lot in the Middle East or parts of Africa. One would assume that if you crushed the patriarchy, eliminated those predominantly white males, all would be well with the world, but it isn’t. Even in the US, some of the most horrendous places to live have a observable absence of men of all races.
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Not to be forgotten is the notion that, really, women made the world we live in as much as men. Who, after all, raised the men who did all they did, and do all they do? Who taught them over the millennia their very first lessons in life? The ones that stuck with them on a fundamental level? Then, of course, the women turned the young fledglings over to the men to go out and learn how to do the man stuff. But, it could be said that it was mostly women who taught men how to be men. There is no way to deny the essential contribution of women — for good and ill — to the making of the world as it is today.
Best,
— x
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Very well argued, my friend….. 😛
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I’m going to get a lot of hate for this, but…
It may sound homophobic, the way IB presented the two genders, but in all honesty, it’s the truth. You cannot erase biology. It is self-evident that men and women are physically, hormonally, mentally, and emotionally complimentary with each other. That’s just basic science, and if you’re going to argue with science, then I don’t know what else to say. Psychology gets in the way of male and female relationships, but that doesn’t make it any less valid that in a perfect world, men are perfect for women and vice versa.
Even in accepting countries like the Netherlands, homosexuals still have the same mental health issues as homosexuals in America (and such mental health issues are more severe than monogamous heterosexuals or chaste people of any sexuality), promiscuity runs rampant in LGBT culture, and 97% of people who get HIV and a host of other STIs have been involved in gay sex. Why? Because the anus is not designed for sex, it is designed for poop, and poop is all the stuff your body rejects – it is unhealthy bacteria and mucus that can lead to disease when it enters your bloodstream. And since the anus is also quite prone to tearing (which can cause anal cancer), it makes it easy for such bacteria to enter one’s blood. Monogamous heterosexual couples just don’t have those health problems.
In the future, please do not assume that if someone says heterosexual relationships are more healthy than any other romantic/sexual relationship, they are saying it out of hate. Sometimes it is out of hate, which I do not agree with, but sometimes it is due to having an informed opinion and compassion. I am sure IB made those statements because she knows what is and isn’t healthy for humans and society, and if it isn’t healthy, then the truth must be stated, and she is saying it out of love.
I used to believe in the whole heteronormativity thing, but extensive research has shown me the truth. I didn’t have time to get sources for my statements, but I’ll be happy to give them to you if you ask. Also, notice how IB wasn’t declaring that everyone should agree with her opinion, as I do not wish to force my opinion on you. I don’t intend for my words here to limit anybody’s freedom, and I don’t believe they are, and it is your choice to do and say as you please. However, I believe all sides of this topic need to be shown. I am merely attempting to engage in unemotional, patient, and honest debate. I do not mean to offend you, and if I do, I am sorry, but if facts offend you, then that is not my fault.
I hope you have enough of an open mind to consider what I have said without resorting to personal attack, hatred, and anger. I hope you can understand that people are allowed to have different opinions and should all still respect each other as human beings.
With all that in mind, I wish you a wonderful, happy day.
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Edit: I didn’t *get my sources. I do have sources, but I didn’t have time to get them to put them in my comment.
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Thank you so much for this post; it is so great to see young women speaking out against feminism!
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I commend you on the thoughtfulness you bring to your writing.
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Yes, yes, yes.
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You always say what you say, so well.
There’s wisdom in here that you have the knack of distilling into bite-sized chunks that make one say, “Of course! Why didn’t I see that?!?
For example:
And…
I recognize a healthy (I use the word intentionally) dose of female chauvinism here! Such a good thing! Where would we be if women didn’t view being a woman as a superior condition?!?
Just as for men. All men I know are at least a little bit male chauvinist — as I am openly. Men are great! and I’m ever so humbly grateful to be one of ’em. However, we also recognize how great women are… just not quite as great as men. 😉 I say that last absolutely seriously. It is absolutely a healthy, wonderful thing that the members of each sex see themselves as just a bit superior to the other.
It’s when the members of one sex see themselves as far superior — as feminists do — that men-women relationships get out of whack and the whole of society suffers for it.
I love your posts, and delight in your well-stated wisdom.
Best,
— x
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Thank you for that comment, because that is precisely what I’d like to see more of in the world, a healthy dose of appreciation for who we are as men and women. A bit chauvinist perhaps, but more akin to knowing our worth, our value, and celebrating it, not in arrogance, but in appreciation for the roles we’ve been given.
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Thank you insanitybytes22 and I agree with you and so does God, how do we know, He tells us so in the Bible, feminists may deny it but that does not change the fact that it is True.
genwritingtowrite I will give you an example True to life just in case you missed Ada’s comment. Homosexuals claim they have the right to their perversion yet over 30 million children, heterosexual woman and Homosexual men are dying of Aids and Aids related illnesses and the latest research shows it is a bacteria that attacks the Immune system not a virus, and God told us about this over two thousand years ago in Scripture.
God does not hate Homosexual men and woman and nor do I but He does hate the evil they do, and so do I, yes it is unnatural and so has bad consequences but also because it not only hurts others it hurts them too and He Loves them as He Loves us all and it’s not His will anyone perishes.
Christian Love from both of us – Anne.
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“Individual men may claim to hate us, some men’s evil actions may lead us to believe we are hated, but biology wins the game every time.” If I said such a thing, the labeling of misogyny or some other silencing tactic would occur. I always commend an individual who is not afraid, to speak out against the ills of their group. For instance, I fall under the umbrella of Black. There are so many labels today, which is why I mentioned umbrella.
Nonetheless, I have a great love for those within the group who are about uplifting, building and enhancing a positive depiction of Black people. However, there are individuals within the group who give the very worst representation of all Black people. I refuse to have any association whatsoever. I will call out their behavior every single time. Evil continues when good people stand by and do nothing. Your post is one that did not belittle feminism, or those who follow the ideology. You provided a logical interpretation of your perspective, to kindly disagree with the message.
The current generation of feminism from what I gather, gains their beliefs from the 2nd wave movement. This is where the concept of rape culture, wage gap and things of that nature derived from. Regardless how both have been refuted with data, the lies continue. I tend to hear, “not all feminists are radical.” Here is the thing, if you refuse to call them out and ostracize yourself, no one will ever create a distinction. You created a beautiful article. Great article.
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I just wanted to add that men aren’t a separate species from women. We’re the same species. Human.
I realize that you mean every word you say and probably didn’t want it to come out like that, but language like just gives me flashbacks to Valerie Solanas-style man-hate rants.
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There is nothing close to hatred in this post, nor is there anything that could even be interpreted as hatred. “Interspecies relationships” is a term I use frequently and is offered a bit tongue and cheek, not as peer reviewed science.
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Wide of the mark… Men and women are the SAME species. I shouldn’t have to explain that to any rational adult. One demographic cannot be inherently superior to any other demographic; each has unique circumstances, as does each individual within a demographic. This is impartial truth. I’m glad to see feminism getting its cummuppence, but this “us and them” stuff has a decidedly feminist undertone that I can’t appreciate. You seem to imply that men need women, fine. I think “need” is an incorrect ego-boost (desire would be better) but fine. However you don’t seem to mention that women also “need” men the same way. There is a sense of the female-centric laced in the article, and whether that’s due to a lifetime of feminist propaganda or a personal belief, it dampens forward momentum and subtly alienates certain men who may already have a reason to find that irritating. I am not forced to seek women out, and I’ll no longer mindlessly protect one either. It was ALWAYS my choice, and that fact ought to be respected. Now, at one point it seemed a choice worth making, but these days it will have to depend upon the circumstances in the moment (draw me into needless conflict once, shame on you. more than once, shame on me…). Neither one of us is objectively more important than another. I’m not obligated to take risks for anyone, least of all those who would presume to deserve blind devotion by virtue of gender. We’re all just here, and trying to pitch men and women as different teams creates a game nobody will win (well, maybe the generational elite who’ve damn near always set themselves a bit above the laws of the land). Men aren’t under some kind of collective directive to create a better world just for women (that’s a very gynocentric view). Men AND women must strive to create a better, or at least stable, future for everything. That’s the way forward, and it starts by rejecting special-snowflake-status.
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You seem to be carrying an awful lot of baggage. Do you come with your own bellhop?
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You covered it in the first paragraph: Women sold their birthrights for the privileges of going to work while raising their kids and of dying on battlefields. The price received: the right to treat sex like boys while still being stuck with the resulting kids, quite unlike boys. And hey, how come the feminists haven’t demanded the use of boy’s names for girls? Nothing more sexist than the names put onto defenseless newborns …
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We’ve sure made a mess of things, haven’t we? 🙂 Your comment reminds me of the gap in feminist thinking between the elitists in their ivory towers and the working class, because at the bottom rung of society, women have never fought for the right to work outside the home. You worked to supplement the family income out of necessity, not as if it was some personal path to fulfillment.
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Wonderful post and so many quotables here in the comments too. I’ve been harboring some of these thoughts myself but you express them so pithily! You have to note lately that feminist proponents are on the defensive. Whenever someone complains about feminism, the defenders’ first response is to tell you what feminism ISN’T, really…you’re wrong about what you thought it was…those radicals give it a bad name…it’s just a belief that everyone should be equal. (As if that’s harmless)Iam having a very difficult time figuring out what anyone is actually willing to defend as essential “feminism”. As far as I can tell it consists of the right to use lots of vulgar language and refuse to be ashamed about it.
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I agree totally! Men and women compliment each other, each with their own special qualities. The hate is a perversion (whether male or female) and is destructive as hate always is. It seems to me feminists want to be like men instead of exploring their femininity. I’m extremely independent, support women’s rights, but love being a woman – why would I want to be a wanna be man?
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Dammit. I have nothing against women (they’re almost the same as people). But seriously, there should be one rule/law/ethic/whatever for all.
I’m not a feminist, or a masculinist; I’m simply a peopleist. Equal opportunity for all, and may the best man (oops) person win.
In the early days of feminism I remember bunches of harpies charging into New Zealand’s men-only public bars waving their bras above their head and shrilling slogans to prove how intelligent and sophisticated they were and so worthy of admittance.
To a degree they’ve won, and folks these days are a lot more relaxed about such things as shared dunnies (southern slang for toilets, slightly vulgar) and in public swear like troopers; which is good ‘cos I no longer have to be nice myself.
As for a heavily pregnant woman on the bus … what is the poor confused male to do? Old-fashioned courtesy may well earn a smack in the chops for being patronising; newspeak says that all fare-paying passengers have equal rights etc etc.
And now everyone’s into lady warriors too, which doubles the pool of available cannon fodder for the wimmin at the top. (Okay, blokes at the top; but Lady Hillary is apparently intending to score some Oval Office space too and well she might.) Yep—by earning the right to go overseas at government expense and get blown up, scorched, sizzled, creamed, made legless or limbless or incinerated or drowned they’ve shown how clever they really are.
Or someone is …
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That’s certainly a breath of fresh air for a subject that needs it badly.
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The definition of feminism is equal rights for men and women. That’s all. Belief in big, bad patriarchy – not in the definition. That men and women are the same biologically – not in the definition. Just equal rights under the law.
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Men and Women will never be completely equal, no matter what anyone wants to say! We both need and compliment each other, and we both have certain things that we are designed to do that the opposite sex can’t do!
God made woman from man’s rib, to be by his side, so man can protect her, and close to his heart so they would love each other!
Not from his feet, so he can walk on her, and not from his head, to be above him….Side by side, so we could go through life together!
And None were ever “born homosexual” that is just – highly illogical, Captain Kirk….(RIP, Mr. Spock) Women have the software, and men have the hardware…They just fit together perfectly, and were designed to be used together in marriage.
Thanks for another great post, Insanitybytes! Keep up the good work!
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I actually have my own piece I am going to write specifically on the culture of sluttiness and the so-called patriarchy.
Its to be called “Dressing Like a Whore: Dismantling the Patriarchy?” I have some rough ideas of how it will read but I think when it comes up I will let you know so you can come give it a once over to let me know your opinion on it.
Air Hugs and Handshakes
Lizzy
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Good luck with that post and drop me a link when you finish, I’d love to read it.
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Thanks its something that’s been on my mind since going to a college campus this summer.
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https://groovyjellybean.wordpress.com/2015/05/14/dismantling-the-patriarchy-by-undressing-yourself/
Now I’m not great with formatting my sentences or even punctuation but I know what I am trying to say. LMK if it sounds bad. TY
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Well done! Check out the link people, it’s a fun post 😉
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Not this summer this spring. My brain is thinking about summer.
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So beautifully written!!
My friends who aren’t feminists, men-haters, etc live happy]ier lives, and really respect their husbands/ boyfriends and have a strong sense of their value. Most of these female friends of mine are Muslims and Christians.
More importantly…the females who value males don’t need to run around topless like a crazy woman just to express their rights… *facepalm*
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Thank you! Facepalm, indeed. 😉
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you – women – are not superior. but you are okay.
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This is so true, and I know so from personal experience, in my relationship with my husband, but even more so in listening to what my 14-year-old son says. Out of the blue he will say things like, “Women are the most important thing in the world to men. There is nothing we can do about it – we’re addicted.” Yes, that addiction can go wrong, sometimes, but, as you said – they are programmed to want the best for us.
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Very good points you have made. Great lesson.
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I agree with you here on most points. I came to your blog because you liked a comment I made on Matt’s recent post. I now see why! We’ve written some similar points if ypu want to take a loook at two of my pos5s on this issue. Good to see someone else’s take on it. I’m off to read more.
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Excuse the typos, it’s late in a long day for me 😪
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“One of the foundational concepts of feminism is that men are oppressors, hogging all the resources, so if we just lower men’s status in the world, regulate and control them, socially engineer a different version of men, women will reap all these benefits. The exact opposite is often true, strengthen the men and the quality of women’s lives will improve also.”
This was ONE of the many problems I have with this post. “If we lower men’s status in the world”….? No true feminist wishes to lower any man’s status in the world, and I highly doubt that most feminist believe that’s even possible in the such strong patriarchal society we live in today. But just one thought… what if we higher women’s status instead? I understand that biologically women and men are different, you are correct on that point. But we cannot bring biology into the circumstance when it comes to a job opening with a woman and a man up for the same position. What if the woman has more experience? You cannot tell me that society’s views that men are better leaders has nothing to do with why the man got this job for instance. What if we raised women up and told them of their potential? What if this was the norm? Because I guarantee you, in many households this is not the case. There’s no need to “socially engineer” men. True feminist love men. These feminazis whom you speak of are not feminist, they are extremist. So yes, if I’m applying for a job I do want to be looked as the male equivalent despite biological differences. True feminist empathize with men because we need them. We need men and women to cooperate to make an equal society function. We need them to fight for our equality, for their daughters, for their sisters. That is what will make the quality of women and men’s lives better.
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Wow! I don’t agree with all of this… but I agree heartily with the part I agree with! Anyway, it’s brilliantly written & obviously deeply felt. As such, a pleasure to read. Thank you for being a writer! And… shhhhh… I’m a spy, too!
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I can completely empathise with your point of view, however, I think you may have a very different definition of feminism in your vocabulary than what it was actually intended to be. I work as a lawyer for women and child rights. I see cases of domestic violence, dowry death, child marriage and marital rape. I defend victims of abuse. I am a feminist because I believe women should be entitled to human rights which basically means I want them to be treated with respect. Do I get male clients? Yes. There are men who are victims of malicious prosecution and false cases and children who have been sexually abused are both boys and girls. I do not discriminate between the two. I’m for equality, and when I don’t see it, I try to do my job to set right the balance. I still identify as a feminist. I’m sorry that everyone seems to hate feminism so much, but in my line of work, if I start arguing about what feminism is or isn’t or whether it’s fair or not, I will not be able to do my job. So I honestly hope all the people commenting on your article appreciate that while the debate on feminism is fascinating, it is not about what you say, it is about what you do. Good luck with your blog. I’ve been reading a lot of your work lately. 🙂
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Men do, by and large, hate women. If you are a lucky and privileged and sheltered enough woman to believe that men love women more often than not, then I encourage you and all other women to open their eyes. Porn is concentrated woman-hating and yet it’s a booming industry. The average 10 year old boy is consuming porn and by the time he is in his hormonal teens, most boys are very regular porn consumers and they continue into adulthood with their porn consumption. And what does porn teach men? That women are not human. To abuse, degrade, rape, torture, humiliate, defile, and dehumanize women. Have you seen what are the most popular porn videos? They are HORRIFIC and it’s violence against women packaged as being ‘sexy’ ‘good times’ ‘fantasy’ or even ‘marital aid’. Facial abuse videos are increasingly popular. And what drives such? Woman-hating. Sexism. Misogyny. Concentrated misogyny. The more a woman or girl cries, the harder the man or boy gets.
Radical feminism is the way to go. Liberal feminism is the ‘fun feminism’ that misogynists love to promote. Radical feminism seeks to free women from the oppression of men and their misogyny. Liberal feminism is the ‘choice’ feminism where pervert men get to see ‘free the nipple’ campaigns as though all women’s “choices” are equal and that it is empowering for women to objectify and exploit themselves. The pro-prostitution relabeling of prostitution as being “sex work” is liberal feminism (misogynists’ agenda guised as liberal feminism).
If men didn’t hate women the world over, there wouldn’t be rampant porn consumption, the porn industry wouldn’t be in the billions and a third of all internet searches wouldn’t be for porn. If men didn’t hate women, there’d be no rampant sexual harassment, wife-beating wouldn’t be so common, nor would all the various ways that men make women unsafe, perv on women, control, abuse, harm, and stalk women.
If men weren’t woman-haters and men’s violence against women wasn’t so rampant, then rape culture wouldn’t exist. Women’s products such as nail polish that turns a color if a drink has been spiked with rape drugs wouldn’t be coming out on the regular. If men didn’t prey on women with all the regularity in the world, women and girls wouldn’t be taught to carry their keys sticking out of their fists when walking to their cars, in hopes of injuring a MALE attacker more with keys than a regular fist.
If men and boys didn’t hate, abuse, harm, stalk, control, degrade women and have their identity largely wrapped up in woman-hating, then you wouldn’t see the need for battered women’s shelters, protection orders, class presentations about pedophiles, rape, coercion, dating violence, domestic violence, revenge porn, etc.
And if men and boys didn’t really truly see women and girls as contemptible, inferior prey, than why is it the most disturbing insult a man or boy can be given is they are somehow like a girl? “Come on you sissies! You run like a girl!” and so forth it goes.
Women and girls like to delude themselves into believing they are more cherished, less hated, less targeted than they really are, but the reality is different. And it’s extremely unnerving for women and girls to look at just how much they are hated as a whole by men and boys. Sure there are exceptions, but they are exceptions.
Millions of girls and women are subjected to FGM. What is that other than woman-hating? What are ‘honor killings’ other than woman hating? Why do men beat women? Because they love them? NO. Why do men control women? Because they love them? NO. Why do men and boys consume porn? Because they love girls and women? NO.
Look away from the horrible reality of misogyny all you want, but it’s exactly what the misogynists want you to do. You help spread their lies in doing so.
Just look at all the victim-blaming. That’s concentrated misogyny and it also stems from woman and girls wanting to believe that victims are somehow deserving of the violence, abuse, rape, degradation, etc. Why? Because then they can delude themselves as to their supposed safety. Example: she was raped because she was walking alone, and I never walk alone, thus I will never be raped. See the delusion? See the illusion of safety it produces? See how victim-blaming helps perps, rapists, and misogynists?
True feminism is about women and girls being recognized as actual human beings. It’s about seeking to free women and girls from men’s dominance, control, and oppression. Just look at suffragettes. They sought for women the right to vote. They were pathologized, seen as bad women, seen as the problem, troublemakers and all. And yet, isn’t it nice to have the ability to vote? Yet misogynists then, the men in power and many women who sided with men in power, considered women to be property, sub-human, and unworthy in participation in public, most especially having a right to vote.
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I couldn’t have written this any better. Thank you!
God’s blessings…
(B.T.W. I am a man so I particularly appreciate your efforts.)
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