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I can’t believe we’re still cowering in a stairwell, in an unlit parking garage, armed with
yet another page of handy rape prevention tips. Apparently men are carnivorous
wildebeests driven to seek potential prey. Never mind that wildebeests are prey themselves,
because this is the world of feminism and our analogies don’t have to make sense.
One would presume, since the world is filled with carnivorous wildebeests, that we should arm
ourselves, but no, guns are dangerous and we need more gun control. Instead, the feminist plan is
to teach wildebeests not to rape women. This demands a couple of obvious questions, like, so who
is teaching them to rape?? And since they are wildebeests completely ruled by their own biological
imperatives, is it even possible to teach them not to?
Okay, so I’m just not feeling the feminist love here. What kind of a person would leave me unarmed,
cowering in fear in a stairwell, hoping somebody along the way has managed to teach a predator not to
prey? I have a list of rape prevention tips in my hands, but it’s just a piece of a paper and step
one says to stay out of stairwells and unlit parking garages! I’ve just managed to fail rape
prevention 101. On the bright side, we live in a rape culture anyway, so rape is probably inevitable.
Because you are a woman, you will now be textually raped, maritally raped, visually raped,
consensually raped, psychically raped, metaphorically raped, financially raped, spiritually raped…..
Stop, I didn’t consent to any of this!
I know, that’s why it’s called “rape.”
No, I mean I didn’t consent to this version of reality you’re trying to create!
What the heck is wrong with you people?
There are a myriad of problems we’re creating with this nonsense. We’re confusing everybody sexually.
We’re teaching women and young girls to walk in fear. We’re stereotyping men and setting them up for
false accusations. We’re reinforcing victimhood. We’re raising a whole generation of young men that
might start internalizing these negative messages about themselves. We’re dishonoring genuine victims
of abuse. We’re destroying trust between men and women. We’re perceiving the world as an ugly place.
We’re looking to the Gov for protection. We’re passing silly legislation. We’re trying to solve problems
that don’t exist…. The just list goes on and on…
If you walk in the rape culture, you walk in a dark place, but perception is not always reality.
None of us have to walk in that world. None of us, no matter what we’ve been through. The rose
garden may be filled with many thorns, but if that’s all you can see, it’s not the world that needs
to change, it’s you.
See, there's this thing called biology... 
Again, absolutely brilliant!
Yours is a rare, open-minded, intelligent, point of view, and I very much appreciate your elegant writing!
I especially appreciate the fact that you cut through the superficial messages that pervade our days, to speak of the deeper, more meaningful, things in life. I’ll re-blog and link to your post.
Best,
— x
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Thank you for your kind words, they’re much appreciated.
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You’re on the warpath with feminists. It’s all interesting and definitely true though.
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For the most part, I agree with you; the only thing that stops me from totally scoffing at the rape culture thing is Roman Polanski. He was (is) a famous Hollywood director who raped a 13 year old girl, and most if not all of Hollywood has rallied to his defense. Whoopi Goldberg even said that the fact that he had sex with a thirteen year old did not really constitute rape. As much as I can’t stand feminism, the whole Roman Polanski thing is very creepy, and it does not say anything good about the culture of Hollywood. The fact that so many Hollywood stars tolerate Roman Polanski, and the fact that we tolerate them says to me that there probably is something wrong with our culture. But most feminists don’t mean Roman Polanski when they talk about rape culture; a few do, but most don’t.
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That is another peeve I have with rape culture mentality. There are many actual rapists that they cover up for and excuse. I’ll never forget Whoopi making excuses for Polanski and claiming it wasn’t really “rape-rape.” More recently, it was Woody Allen.
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I know. Remember how nuts feminists went when that politician used the phrase “legitimate rape”? And yet Whoopi Goldberg minimizes rape and gets a pass. Apparently, it’s ok for people to defend rapists as long as they support abortion.
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Those who know the ins and outs of Hollywood have said that pedophilia and sex slavery are the very glue that hold Hollywood together. Hollywood is most accurately described as a cult. We can include he music biz too. No doubt Hollywood will have its “Catholic Church” moment eventually and everyone will will be ‘sooooo shocked’ even though dozens of celebs have been speaking out about it for years.
But Hollywood is not reality, it is not culture (even though it is being used to influence culture). To claim a ‘rape culture’ exists because of Hollywood is like claiming everybody is horse obsessed because of Ascot.
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Long ago, in another world, feminists were calling all of us women to be tough as nails and fierce like tigresses.
Now they’re telling us to not take self-defense classes because “it perpetuates the rape culture.”
“You shouldn’t learn to defend yourself – you shouldn’t need defending in the first place!”
Well, that’s all well and good, but the men you’re trying to teach to not rape already know that rape is wrong, and a tiny percentage will do it anyway.
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Man those feminists are silly, with that logic there’s A LOT we don’t need :’)
I can hardly believe that’s what they’re spouting
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Teaching young boys that males are hard wired to be rapists and that they must resist the urge to rape women for the rest of their adult lives IS A FORM OF MENTAL CRUELTY / SEXUAL ABUSE ITSELF.
Thanks to feminism, when boys sexually mature and start becoming sexually attracted to girls they are now made to feel ‘dirty’ and shameful.
However, you could argue that a ‘rape culture’ DOES exists in society…… but only with respect to the rape of boys and men, and/ or rape committed by women.
A ‘rape culture’ is a culture which condones rape or is generally apathetic about the whole subject. When was the last time you heard about the rape of a boy or man on the news? Were is the support and the shelters for male victims of rape? When was the last time you heard about a female rapist on the news? When was the last time a female rapist got the same treatment in the courts as a male rapist?
And where is the public outrage/ media coverage for feminist ‘rape apologists’ like Adele Mercier, a feminist professor who recently claimed that the rape of underage boys by adult women staff in a detention facility was not rape at all – because underage boys can (apparently) consent to sex with adult women?
Had a MALE professor said the same thing about adult men raping underage girls his career would be over and he’d be crucified in the media.
There’s your ‘rape culture’ – the apathy regarding the rape of boys and men, and female rapists.
Why Rape Is Sincerely Hilarious
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You are quite correct, in fact, we’ve been erasing the suffering of men for quite some time now, in what I can only describe as something akin to bigotry. Not only is the sexual abuse of boys often ignored, women’s violence against men is generally buried in the abyss somewhere.
Recently we had our “save our girls” campaign, for the kidnapped girls in the Sudan. Completely eliminated from the public consciousness where the 54 boys taken earlier and simply executed.
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Yes, “save our girls” because the girls were STILL ALIVE. Because boys were already dead, having been executed BY OTHER MALES, we are being supposedly insensitive to the suffering of the males because we wish to save the still alive hostages that happen to be female??????
Do you hear yourself?
You cannot save the already dead. You can seek to save the still alive hostages. Think about logic here. It’s not insensitive to males to wish that the still alive captives be rescued. A lot of people would prefer instant death than to be kept alive to be raped and bred and beaten and tortured. Why shouldn’t we seek to save those girls?
If it was your daughter taken, wouldn’t you want her to be saved if she was still alive? Would you want some blogger across the world lying about how such is supposedly unfair or insensitive to boys — boys that had already been killed and could not be saved?
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Many feminists also have no problem with women who rape underage girls; in The Vagina Monologues, that celebrated feminist play, a young woman describes being raped by a woman, but says that it was a “good rape”. I am not aware of any feminist objecting to that.
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Feminists don’t say men are wired this way, more anti feminists than them, do, and cite evo psych on it.
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Feminist definitions of rape, and rape culture hysteria are ruining sex for a lot of people and it is really sad. The expansion of the definition of rape to include things like drunk sex and “unenthusiastic consent” is just ridiculous. I go to college and have some friends who are female and have had sex while drunk, and not a single one thinks that she was raped or seemed to be any less happy after having had sex while drunk. I also know some people who are uncomfortable with sex and with physical contact in general but still want to have sex, and I doubt that those people will be able to give consent enthusiastically. Another thing that is sad is that thanks to Marry Koss and other feminists many people have caused a lot of people to have some very distorted views on just how common rape actually is among men and women.
For those of you who don’t know, Marry Koss is the feminist who consulted the CDC on its definitions when it went about conducting its NISVS(National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey) and it is thanks to her, that the definition of rape used in this study included “alcohol facilitated penetration” but did not include “made to penetrate”. Not only is feminist influence over-emphasizing the problems that women face and causing them to be more afraid of certain things than they actually should be, it is also hurting men by trivializing their problems(when said problems are caused by women) and causing them to be them more trusting of women than they probably should be.
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Thanks you for your comment. We’re really making a mess of things. Women are growing up more sexually confused then ever and men are being shamed and continually portrayed as perpetrators. It’s just not healthy.
Our marital rape laws have really gotten bizarre. In my state we’re now working on 3rd degree marital rape, which is no force, no with drawl of consent. In the context of marriage, there is a kind of built in consent, so this idea that somebody could fall asleep or change their mind but not say anything, and that somehow constitutes marital rape, is just off the wall.
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A recent survey of women in the UK showed that over 50 percent of women had awoken to their partner having sex with them while they were asleep. Asleep or unconscious (from alcohol, drugs, etc) women cannot consent.
A woman elsewhere found out her husband had been drugging her with prescription sleep medication and while she was knocked unconscious he was raping her unconscious body and filming it with his cell phone. She was in a medically induced sleep and didn’t awake. She only found out about it having seen the video footage on his phone that he made of it. Should that not be a crime?
Another woman wished to separate from her abusive husband but they didn’t have the finances to support two households while having such young children so she was sleeping in another bedroom. That husband knew she was a heavy sleeper and he’d creep into her bedroom and have sex with her unconscious body without her knowing or waking. She found herself to be pregnant again because of his actions, and even further tied to him because of the additional pregnancy. He spoke openly about it and laughed about it and didn’t seem to think there was anything wrong about what he did.
You’re saying such are not crimes? Why would anyone want to be intimate with someone who is unconscious?
If you eliminate the drugged, drunk, or unconscious laws, then it’s even more of a free for all for predatory men. Lots of rape is facilitated by alcohol. Disgusting men even have t-shirts with messages of “get her drunk” or “”No” means more beer” and lots of men make jokes about getting a woman drunk enough to pass out and black out so they can rape her unconscious body.
Brock Turner tried to claim “drunk sex” and yet was prosecuted for rape. You wish to change the laws to help Brock Turner have his way with more unconscious females behind dumpsters?
When living with an abuser who is willing and able to murder you, there is a level of coercion present. The law should be nuanced enough to recognize such entrapment and forced consent. So if a husband badgers, manipulates, sleep deprives her, and verbally abuses her into “compliance” and “consent” so he’ll stop abusing her, shouldn’t that be recognized as something? Unenthusiastic consent isn’t real consent. It’s forced compliance in hopes of protecting yourself from further, more escalated violence and abuse. Is it real consent? No. It’s a go-somewhere-else-in-your-mind-and-perform-on-demand-as-he-expects-it-and-hope-he-stops-quickly and want to die even more. But was it sex or was it rape?
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“We’re reinforcing victimhood. We’re raising a whole generation of young men that
might start internalizing these negative messages about themselves. We’re dishonoring genuine victims
of abuse.”
Your entire post was great, but this really stood out. There is a deep and sad message embedded in much of the videos and messages I come across, in regard to feminism. That message is the presence of victimhood. When you remove this, it stops the speaker in their tracks. The reason this occurs is because when you rid them of this status, it diminishes the concept that there is a system maliciously oppressing women.
When they hold the key of victim, it validates their message. Very very sneaky. More importantly, in the west, there is no rape culture. They do not condone rape. There are laws and repercussions against rape. In fact, the mere accusation is enough to ruin his life. I use male, because when they speak of this supposed rape culture, they are solely referring to male perps.
Are there people who are aware of the laws against sexual assault, yet commit the act? Yes…we call them rapists and they face consequences. People have a great disdain for the act in the West. Are there countries where there is a cultural belief that the victim is to blame? Yes…but that does not culturally occur in places like the US. Rape is a VERY serious crime there. The idea that a person can base a so-called cultural epidemic on idiots…it boggles the mind. If you want to fight cultures where rape is normalized, branch into regions where it does occur.
When you begin equating everything to rape, it undermines real rape victims. The latest interpretations by many I see on Youtube and other online locations, it scares me. Nonetheless, wonderful post
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Thank you for your comment. I think you’re quite right, there really is no “rape culture” in the western world. That’s a projection, a bit of a distortion to try and validate a meme.
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Well said to you too!
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“Apparently men are carnivorous
wildebeests driven to seek potential prey. Never mind that wildebeests are prey themselves,
because this is the world of feminism and our analogies don’t have to make sense.
One would presume, since the world is filled with carnivorous wildebeests, that we should arm
ourselves, but no, guns are dangerous and we need more gun control. Instead, the feminist plan is
to teach wildebeests not to rape women. This demands a couple of obvious questions, like, so who
is teaching them to rape?? And since they are wildebeests completely ruled by their own biological
imperatives, is it even possible to teach them not to?”
I don’t understand how you can see it this way. It’s entirely backwards. People who think that women should be in charge of policing men’s sexuality are the ones who seem to think that men are unable to control themselves.
All attempts to CHANGE the culture to make men respect women’s consent more are inherently based on the idea that men ARE rational beings and thus capable of learning.
Feminists do NOT say that men are “hardwired to rape”; it’s usually misogynists and, you know, rapists who say that. The term “rape culture” means exactly what it literally says; that it’s culture, NOT biology, that makes excuses for rape.
And the belief that ignorance about what defines rape is a factor in a substantial number of rapes definitely does have some truth to it; or did you not hear about the incident that had high school students saying things like “How was it rape? She was unconscious, so she didn’t say no.”?
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“I don’t understand how you can see it this way. It’s entirely backwards.”
LOL, I wish I could tell you how often people have said that to me, but I’ve gone and lost count.
“All attempts to CHANGE the culture to make men respect women’s consent more are inherently based on the idea that men ARE rational beings and thus capable of learning”
Apparently it’s based on the idea that men are simply too stupid to understand what rape is, hence the need for all the “learning.”
“And the belief that ignorance about what defines rape is a factor in a substantial number of rapes definitely does have some truth to it…..”
Ignorance on whose part? The whole idea that a rapist is unaware of what he’s doing because he’s ignorant is completely absurd.
So which is it? Ignorant wildebeests too stupid to understand what “rape” is, or fairly intelligent men with evil intentions and a desire for power and control?
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You’re saying things that seem to be based on the idea that ignorance and stupidity are the same thing.
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Well, in this instance they are. If men are too stupid to know what rape is, then their ignorance would be terminal. This idea that we can just educate rapists so they don’t accidentally rape people out of ignorance is just absurd. Genuine rape is not an act of ignorance or poor manners or of a failure to pay attention in sex ed class.
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Indeed, it would surprise me if people didn’t actually know what rape is. What kind of a moron would rape an unconscious person and claim it wasn’t because no ‘no’ was said :/. That seems to say that silence implies ‘yes’ which is wrong, only yes means yes :’)
I think in that case I would ask that rapist how he would feel if I stuck a broom up his ass while he’s asleep. “I mean you didn’t say, please don’t put a broom there” so its okay riight?
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Rape pisses me off so much. I wouldn’t even want to have sex if my partner wasn’t practically demanding it
If I’d even have the slightest hint that she had some reservations about it I’d feel horrible
Rape is about sad little boys, yes boys because men don’t rape *flex*, looking for a disturbed/sick rush of power and whatever bullshit. If I ever get my hands on one of those…
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@D.T. Nova
Terms and phrases like “rape culture” and “teach men not to rape” are very sexist — Imagine, if I said as a male, rape would be solved if you teach women not to sleep around. Is that not offensive to women? Feminist language implies rape can go away if men are “educated,” “taught,” “conditioned” or “trained,” as if men are animals that need to be potty-trained because we can’t help peeing in the house.
It also doesn’t characterize what rape is, an act of evil not based in rationality, as you so opine. Whether or not it’s date-rape by someone you know at a party or the stranger in the alley, an injustice has been done, whose perpetrators can’t be reasoned with. The Nazis certainly had a culture of committing genocide, but I hope you can perceive the lunacy of trying to appeal to their reason about the harms of exterminating an ethnic group.
Feminists are framing the issue in such inept language that women are being influenced to not take reasonable precautions in the face of real-world risk. This delusion is hurting women more than it’s helping. You don’t encourage the divers who are wary of shark attacks to swim in shark-infested waters covered in chum. And when the divers get bitten, you say it’s because the sharks need to be told not to bite and you should keep on swimming anyway without a cage. They say definition of madness is to repeatedly attempt the same action and expect different results…
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So, you say that the ideas you are against are the ones that say men are “animals”, and then you go on to make your own analogy explicitly equating rapists to sharks?
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No. Those phrases/terms imply that all men are natural rapists that need to be cured of their affinity to rape. The language presumes men to be guilty for just being men without them committing the qualifying act. It’s as bigoted as saying Asians need to be taught NOT to be bad drivers.
Secondly, these terms have framed the issue so improperly, it’s created a delusion that is influencing women to not take sensible steps to protect themselves in the face of real danger. This is the fault of feminists, who discourage women from taking self-defense courses, carrying peppers spray, wearing anti-date-rape nail polish on the pretense that this all shouldn’t be a women’s issue. This is all based on the idiotic idea that women should live and act based on how the world ought to be, but not how the world actually is. I should not have to lock my front door, but there are thieves who will take advantage of me. I should not have to wear a seat belt, but car accidents do happen. So, repeatedly advising women to not protect themselves in a dangerous, imperfect world by using language that doesn’t correctly characterize rape as evil and a fixture of the natural world that is here to stay is…what’s the term that feminists like to say?…waging a war on women. It’s akin to repeatedly telling divers to swim in shark-infested waters without a cage even though there is a well-documented history of shark attacks in that part of the sea. That is my analogy that doesn’t explicitly equate rapists to sharks — analogies never explicitly equate, otherwise they wouldn’t be analogies — though I can see how you could take it that away.
I should also add, to strengthen my analogy, that the feminists who treat recreational sex as a liberty that should not be infringed upon my any outside force or person, have facilitated this “rape culture.” Women are still dehumanized and viewed as sexual objects. Popular media subliminally bombards both girls and boys that true and successful femininity equates to being sexually desirable to men. Flip open Cosmo, Glamour, Seventeen, if you don’t believe me. Essentially, many feminists have so trivialized sex that the moral inhibitions involved in it have also been diminished. Is it any wonder why we have this alleged “rape epidemic” on college campuses? Is it any wonder why young men feel entitled to have sex with women? Sure, the bastards who rape make a choice, but feminists have helped create the perfect storm with their social engineering, and they continue to lead women like lambs to slaughter by encouraging them to be sexually active and indoctrinating them that taking personal responsibility for themselves enforces victim blaming. I’m sorry D.T. Nova, but you need to wake up and realize feminism has failed millions of women.
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Truer words have not been spoken.
We should indeed behave realistically instead of ‘ideally’.
Random: I also believe make-up is overrated, but feel free to put it on if you must ladies
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“true and successful femininity equates to being sexually desirable to men.” that’s not exactly feminism, as the question of body hair and shaming, demonstrates.
And I don’t see how getting to be more of active subject of one’s sex life could lead to dehumanization, except to those who already see a woman this way.
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Rape has been defined as ‘seduction without salesmanship’.
All good clean fun, for some. But it’s a deep issue. It boils down—in my mind—to morals/ethics. I believe in leading by example, and I think that many folks accept that thought as a given. So if their leaders can rape and get away with it—other peoples, other countries … why not them, too?
We are brought up (taught) that we are our brother’s keeper and that taking from the rich to give to the poor is good. Very good. Which possibly explains why an untalented guy who’s getting none feels entitled to take from she who has it.
We need inculcate the Trader ethic but this won’t happen in a dog-eat-dog world where might is right. No-one at the top will allow him/herself to be knocked off the perch, not lightly. It has been said that the measure of a man is what he will do if he knows for sure that he will never be caught, found out, discovered; and will absolutely get away with it. Clinton in the Oval Office? Goofed a bit there, didn’t he?
I was shocked when a part-time member of my staff told me that at her high school they were being taught that “All men are potential rapists~!”. She hastened to disclude me from that, so obviously the teachers failed to explain the true meaning of ‘all’. I was a bit offended but understood perfectly, I think I countered with “And all women are potential poisoners” which she wasn’t expecting but couldn’t fault either.
Sadly we share this world with predators.
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Your post reminds me of this video I saw recently. In it a women complains about catcalling. I was laughing my butt off and quite half way though. I like your view and teach my nephew how not to be a victim. That way doesn’t live in fear and knows that he can get out. Good post!
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While feminists are scared of rape, here is an inverted fear that men might face. And I have to admit it that me, as a male, it did cross my mind after reading all the crazy shit feminists want to enforce for rape criminology. Imagine, you have a consent sex with a girl and next morning, police knocks on your door with accusation of you raping that girl? Do you know how scary this feels? And what’s worse, there is NO way for the man to prove he didn’t. Especially if the sex was unprotected for whatever reason and the sperm can be obtained by the rape kit. Sure there won’t be any evidence of the forced intercourse or other physical harm, but the man did have intercourse with that woman and even if you speak the truth, you can’t eny that fact. She has your genetic material inside of her and her claim. See where I’m going? I know it’s not like this is happening daily to every 1 man out of 5 (that’s the awesome stat feminists always use for everything), but the thing is just scary. You don’t have much options to legally fight back, woman holds all the Joker cards and when people see you as rapist, your reputation is gone forever even if you are later proven to be innocent. It’s just as scary as getting raped.
And if feminists think they are the only ones scared of walking alone at night though the city, do you think I’m not as a man? I might not get raped, but someone can beat me or stab me to death just because he or she needs to get high for 10 seconds and want my 20 € that may or may not be in my wallet. And while I luckily haven’t got stabbed yet, but I reckon it would be just as traumatic experience as getting raped.
But hey, feminists are so self centered, stuff like this never ever even crosses their minds. I’m very much certain of that.
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I agree, it’s scary stuff. We pretty much threw out the rule of law, the chain of evidence, and just went with guilty by the court of public opinion. That is indeed, not a good place to be.
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Thinking further about this—there was an American president who said to the effect “Walk softly and carry a big stick”.
I like it. Many things to many folks. To me it can mean simply be aware of the hazards/risks and prepare in advance against them—not every woman gets raped, not every man rapes, not every dog bites …
Mindset. It always (r) always devolves to mindset; the ‘values’ held by the individual. It is in effect a numbers game wherein the chance of becoming a statistic can be influenced by awareness. It shouldn’t be—but this is why the more clever of divers either use that shark-proof cage or stay out of the water.
What can be done about it? Sadly, not much … education doesn’t work with morons, tolerance plays into thuggish hands, ‘justice’ isn’t. Perhaps that president was right after all, as were the ancients: “Si vis pacem, parabellum”.
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Very true. Though I think this rape culture you speak of is not very present in my country, I think it’s part of some of that ‘American Fear’, I hope you know what I mean by that.
I have a little niece, she’s about 8 months old. What I will do to keep her safe is teach her martial arts, if people mess with her I want her to be kicking their asses. To be honest I think Everyone, any gender, should do this, as martial arts have more uses than learning how to fight or defend yourself.
In case someone is curious, I have done; Aikido, Karate, Kempo and Bujinkan. I was able to do Kempo the longest, though I intend to carry on with Bujinkan next year.
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I really enjoyed reading this. I’ve often found myself thinking similar thoughts when I hear about all of this. I don’t quite see how they think that would work but they do. The other thing I don’t understand is, that they don’t seem to understand the concept at all because women can rape men too but that’s a social stigma and a woman could never over power a man but why couldn’t a woman just as easily use drugs against him as men do against women?
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Thank you for reading and for your kind words.
Women can and do indeed rape men, but less frequently and it is not spoken about much, nor is it necessarily the same dynamic. The whole nature of consent is a discussion we need to have as a culture someday, but I I suppose that can’t happen in the midst of so much political shrieking.
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Wow. I notice that this was written 2 1/2 years ago, and it resonates with truth NOW. I have only recently, I confess, begun to read your posts regularly, and I thoroughly enjoy your writing. More aptly said, I enjoy the truth that guides your words. Thank you for sharing!
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I am so thankful to be connect! Here is a like minded soul that I would love to connect you with – Christine Tuhy. Here book “Beyond #MeToo – Men are Not the Problem: How do we move from Blame and Shame to Partnership and Protection and Healing?” is brilliant – https://app.thebookpatch.com/BookStore/beyond-metoo–men-are-not-the-problem/4423c5f7-592e-4b57-9b94-81b0f45e3a79
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Have you seen today’s porn? Some college professors and high school teachers are now making a point to explicitly tell the boys/young men in their classes to NOT STRANGLE or HIT their girlfriend, hookup, or date. Know why? Because we do live in an especially misogynistic time with boys becoming super predators before they even hit 18. Practically every boy regularly consumes porn. Not the nude pictures of the 1970s but hardcore porn and this latest generation has been consuming it since the age of 10, on average.
High school teachers talk about having to emphasize again and again how abnormal the porn they’ve consumed is and fight against years of boys’ consumption and indoctrination. Boys view hardcore porn as normal sex. They are strangling their girlfriends. They find girls’ crying, saying “No!”, begging for them to stop, to be arousing and pleasurable. The girls are resigned to their fate that sex equals suffering, pain, torture, and defilement.
You imagine things to be otherwise. You want to think your high opinion of men and boys is warranted. It’s not. Familiarize yourself with the top ranked, top consumed videos of the most heavily used porn sites. Boys and men are getting off to crying, gagging, vomiting, begging for it to stop, women and girls.
Boys and young men are expecting to strangle their girlfriends during what they consider sex. It is rape culture. It is porn culture. No matter how much you wish to dismiss such, it’s reality.
In a survey from 30 or so years ago, college-aged men were asked if they knew they could get away with it, would they rape? And a third of the men said, “yes”. They didn’t use a euphemism. They used “rape”. And that was 30 or so years ago. Before the free online porn of today.
You live in denial or ignorance. I’m not sure if it is willful or not.
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